Miscarriage and work

[Rosebel]

I only found out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago and it was a real shock as my DH has had a vasectomy but he never sent a sample to check it has worked so now we know it didn't.
We weren't even sure if we were going to keep the baby but I started having a miscarriage on Thursday night. I thought I was okay with it. I had some other family things happening on the weekend and focused on that
Tonight I can't stop crying. I haven't been able to eat today and feel exhausted but can't even sleep. I don't know what's wrong with me.
I'm due in work tomorrow. Obviously work done know I was pregnant. DH thinks I should call in sick but I'm not sick. I should never have said I wasn't sure if I wanted the baby and I probably deserved to loose the baby.
I work in childcare and DH thinks going back will be too much.
I just feel so confused and all over the place. Am I making any sense? Just feel so confused and upset. I just need a bit of support or someone to talk to.

First of all I am so sorry for your loss, and no, of course you didn’t deserve to lose the baby. I think the fact that you think this, and feel in your own words confused and all over the place means that you really are not ready to go back to work. You do need some time off and to find someone to talk through your feelings and emotions, you have been bereaved, your body is in a state of hormonal confusion so no wonder you are not thinking straight. Listen to your body, and your OH, and give him a hug, he is feeling the loss too. Take care of yourself.

Of course you can call in sick. You just had a serious shock to your body and mind.

So sorry you're going through this. It's ok to be confused and not know how to feel.