Any positive stories following one MC?

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Hi all,

I just found out I had a MMC on Wednesday at my first scan, baby stopped growing at around 9 weeks. This was my first pregnancy, I really struggled to process it when I was told as everything had been going well and I had zero symptoms to suggest otherwise. Had a D&C yesterday (Friday) and just trying to process it and recover so we can try again.

The nurses were lovely and told me that I’m not more likely to have it happen again, and that most MCs are followed by a healthy pregnancy, but the only people I know who’ve spoken about their miscarriages have gone through multiple and years of struggle, so to me it feels very one or the other and I’m so scared I’m now for sure on this long road of the same happening over and over. Does anyone have any positive stories of having another baby after a miscarriage? Any advice from anyone who’s gone through this would be much appreciated, I know we’ll be terrified until we get past that first scan (at least) safely in future.

Thanks all xxx

Sorry for your loss OP.

I had a missed MC found on scan and opted for medical management.
We didn't try again for quite a long while for a lot of reasons not related to the miscarriage.
When we did try again I had a chemical pregnancy where I'd tested positive early and then started bleeding about a week after my missed period was due and the test was negative straight away.
3 months after the chemical I got pregnant with my first child, had an uneventful healthy pregnancy and have since gone on to have a second baby.
Don't lose hope, miscarriage is incredibly common and many many woman only experience it once

So sorry, OP. Its a heartbreaking time.

I had a MC at 12 weeks, had an ERPC but 2yrs and a different husband later (!), fell pregnant again straight away. That DC is 23 and 6ft 2 now and his brother is 22.

Take time to grieve and recover. Wishing you all the best.

Sorry for your loss.

This was me, 11 years ago. Now have a 10yr old and an 8 yr old.

I won't lie though. I felt robbed of an enjoyable pregnancy. I felt at every stage with DD that I would lose her. Didn't celebrate being pregnant, didn't have a baby shower, didn't 'show off' my pregnancy (new clothes etc) It was all on a count day to get the baby out and alive. Sorry, just being honest!

Take a baby aspirin daily. I was told this by a very senior consultant. It obviously worked. (certainly doesn't do any harm - look up the link between mc and aspirin)

So sorry for you loss OP. This happened to me. I now have a 22 year old DD and an 18 year old DS.

DD was born 2 years after my miscarriage. No problems or complications at all. DS three years later.

I also know a lot of women who have had a miscarriage followed by perfectly healthy babies - just like me.

Please try not to despair - chances are you will go on to have beautiful babies xx

Am so sorry, it's such a sad time. I had heavy blood loss while at work at 13 weeks then D and C. It was near Christmas and I just felt desperately sad for weeks. By the following February I was pregnant again with now 17 Yr old DD, followed by 2 more successful pregnancies. I do remember at the time thinking what if this happens again and again. I'll be honest the next pregnancy was a worrying time and I remember looking at dates thinking I'd got past the time when it happened the first time, I was probably a bit obsessive! But all was well thankfully. Take care of yourself and time to grieve. Sending strength x

Thank you all, these are really helping. I’m pretty anxious generally but felt so happy in this pregnancy I wasn’t worrying much, but I know I will be this way at least until the 12 week scan next time then hopefully less so with further confirmation, just hoping for a speedy conception (was just 2 months last time) but trying not to hang my hopes up on it either, I know each time is a dice roll again.

I’ve found every test I can order myself to see if there’s anything that could help next time, I see it as a win win because if they find something, there’s a solution, and if they don’t it’s more assurance it was a random genetic issue which we’ll hopefully be luckier with next time.

@CoastalWave Are there any downsides to the aspirin? If not this sounds like a good preventative (or just another assurance even, all helps) for sure.

I had a mmc April last year same as you I didn't know til 12 week scan and I was devastated. My dh wasn't allowed in with me as we were still in covid time I had to have the pessaries as baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and I was a mess for months. I now have my 6 month old rainbow ds sleeping on me at the moment. I'm really sorry for your loss it is a horrible experience but I can tell you that you arent any more likely for it to happen again x

I took aspirin from 8 weeks this time due to family history of pre eclampsia. And I must have spent hundreds on private scans. Had a private scan at 7 weeks, 15 weeks 24 weeks and 30 weeks. As I had anxiety throughout that I'd lose him. Only reason I didn't have private from 30 is hospital had to scan me every 2 wees due to too much fluid. X

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 13 weeks. I became pregnant again 4 months later - no problems with that pregnancy, and when carrying my DD 3 years later. Sending you hugs & positive thoughts x

So sorry for your loss op. I lost my first pregnancy at 19 weeks in 2020, had to wait at least 3 months after the birth to try again as I also had to have a DNC as not all the placenta came out. I waited longer in the end as I wanted to get results of all the tests/autopsy and to get myself fit and mentally well. I fell pregnant first try after 5 months and my 1 year old is now playing on the floor around me. My second pregnancy was full of anxiety the whole way through which disappeared after giving birth. I had similar anxieties about getting pregnant again and I know we were very lucky with our 2nd pregnancy and how quickly it happened. I did take aspirin through the 2nd pregnancy as a precaution.

I had a mmc on my 3rd pg. Was a shock but a lot of pgs don't go on to term. My last pg resulted in my now teenaged ds.I'd lay a bet you will have a live baby, even if you were unfortunate enough to have another mc or two. Best of luck for the future

I’m really sorry you’re going through it op. Last November the same happened to me with my first a, mmc detected at 12 week scan. Managed to conceive again a few weeks later and 2 month old is wriggling around on me just now.

We booked a private scan for 9/10 weeks as we were told we lost our first at 8 weeks. It was worth it I’m my opinion as I was so anxious. As time went on it definitely got easier, after the 20 week scan a lot of the anxiety left.

Take care of yourself and for now take it one day at a time ❤️

Thank you all, these are really helpful stories and giving me hope that it’ll be okay eventually. It just feels very empty and lonely without them.

@fghj149 That’s so similar! I’m keeping my fingers crossed we can continue to repeat your pattern, very happy to hear you have your little one ♥️

Aw I'm sorry OP, I hope you're doing ok.

Most people I know had one loss before a successful pregnancy. I was surprised at how common it was when my friends started getting to the baby stage in life. It almost felt like a rite of passage somehow, losing a pregnancy before having a successful one, since it happened to so many people. I had one MC in 2020 and now I'm typing this at 1am thanks to my 12 month old. I had a molar pregnancy so had to wait for a year before being allowed to conceive again while they did follow up tests. I think give yourself time to grieve and recover and then go again.

MMC December 2021. Pregnant again January 2022. Baby currently cluster feeding on me at 5 weeks old.

Should add we already had dd1 who is now 2.5yeats.

Really sorry you've experienced a loss. Hoping for a positive as soon as you're ready to try again x

So sorry for your loss 💝

I had a mmc first pregnancy. We took a couple of months off trying while i recovered and now have gone on to have three healthy pregnancies

I had an MMC around this time last year. Got pregnant again and currently have a three week old on my chest, despite bleeding in that second pregnancy. I had all the same worries you did, don't think I let a breath out until about 14 weeks

Yes, I carried a baby to full term after previously miscarrying. Early miscarriages are very common. Please don't worry. I hope you feel OK.

I had a miscarriage in March , Pretty quickly after finding out i was pregnant , a week or so later, so it wasn't the worst it could have been. However, I got pregnant the next month & I am currently 34 weeks pregnant :)

I remember reading online , as i was too worried after miscarrying , that having 1 miscarriage does not increase your likelihood of having another one! If you have two miscarriages ,the chance you would have a 3rd even then isn't that much more increased. Its really when you get to 3 miscarriages that they would be worrying / looking at potential fertility problems x

Sorry for your loss.
I was told I would need assistance to fall pregnant after years of using no contraception. I didn’t realise I was pregnant due to PCOS irregular periods. I had a mc at 9 weeks. Only knew when I was sadly miscarrying. I needed a d&c. I was told people often get pregnant quickly after a d&c.
I fell pregnant within two months. Ds is 11.
Never used contraception again, no other pregnancies. He’s my miracle baby and now a sassy preteen who thinks he’s 17.
Best of luck.

I had a mmc after being told I would need IVF to get pregnant. I was devastated but after taking 6 months out to prepare for IVF I fell pregnant. I now have a 5 year old and a 8 year old both conceived naturally. I'm sorry for your loss OP xxx