MMC Experiences

[Josiejo12]

Hi all,

I found out after going for a scan at 10 weeks that I'd had a missed miscarriage at around 7 weeks. I'd had no symptoms that anything was wrong either so whilst I knew it was a possibility it was still a shock.
The midwife talked through the various options with us and we've come away waiting to see if my body will naturally miscarry as I was told this was the safest option. The thing is, I feel like a ticking time bomb just waiting. Every little niggle and I'm wondering if it's the start and I'm too scared to go too far away from home incase it happens. I'm thinking about waiting a week and if something still hasn't happened asking to go back in for medical management. I want to avoid surgery if I can, mainly due to increased risks however the thought of being treated at hospital and it all being over and done with is quite appealing.
I was just wondering what people's experience with this were and if you waited for it to happen naturally, when did it happen?

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

Everyone is different. For me, it didn't happen - I opted for medical managent after 4 weeks of nothing but my DSis miscarried a few days after her 12wk scan (MMC 7wks).

Waiting just prolonged it for me. I had medical management which failed so had to have surgical in the end. I personally wouldn't wait - I would just get it over and done with. Sorry if that sounds direct but mine dragged on so long that I just wanted it over.

I have had 2 missed miscarriages. My first was found at my first scan and I was around 8 weeks when baby had stopped growing and should have been 14weeks- they said that as I hadn’t started to miscarry naturally it was unlikely to happen so I opted for medical management.

my second I also didn’t miscarry naturally but did wait for a few weeks to see if I would- I then opted for the surgical option

personally I found the surgical option kinder emotionally and pain wise for myself, however everyone is different and you need to do what’s best for you.

so sorry for your loss

I had two of them. Both went through surgery and found it under control and pain free. I’m also worried about increased risk but I think none of these choices is without risk…

Hi Josiejo,
I’m so sorry you are going through this!
We had a missed miscarriage back in May, no warning, still having symptoms but we went to our 12 week scan and they had to tell us.
We had to wait to see EPU a week later and I did miscarriage naturally in the meantime (as we were so far along I did go through two nights of contractions to miscarry) but after a month they diagnosed it as an incomplete miscarriage and I needed the surgical management anyway.
I would personally recommend surgical management as it is over within an hour and is just a definitive end to an already heartbreaking time.
Hope this helps!

Poor you, OP. It's not a happy time.

Years ago, feeling exactly as you do. Diagnosed in the morning first thing, and by the end of that day I was at the GP practice begging them to send me for a D and C. That was the current offer, or wait. I arrived at the hospital, and whilst I was waiting for a slot, it started to come away anyway.

I remember feeling horribly cheated. The period which followed a month later was the date of the start of my pregnancy with my eldest DD.

This has happened to me twice and both times I waited to naturally miscarry, which happened a week or so after an early scan at around 9-10 weeks. It wasn’t pleasant but it was fine and happened over an evening/night. I wouldn’t worry too much about it happening so quickly that you don’t have time to get home. In my experience, and what I’ve read of other people’s, it usually starts slowly with light bleeding, followed by cramping before it ramps up over the course of a few hours.

Mine wasn’t too bad in that once it was over, I felt (at least physically) pretty normal straight away.

Take care of yourself whatever you choose to do!

So sorry about this. I had a m/c - not sure how far along I was as I hadn't had a period since having dc1. When I realised I was pregnant I went for a scan, measured 8 weeks but no heart beat. I opted to wait, as I didn't want meds or admission to hospital due to dc1 bring very young.

I also felt I wanted my body to 'look after ' my baby until it was ready to leave. Eventually miscarried in the evening 2 weeks later. Contractions were painful but that bit passed fairly quickly, and recovered fine.

I hope things go OK whichever route you choose. Its a tough time.

So sorry you’re going through this OP, as you can see you are not alone, there are a lot of us out here who understand.

My first MMC was medically managed, the second passed naturally after a week or two, the third and fourth started naturally but turned into haemorrhages and needed surgery, and the fifth they booked me in for surgery to avoid the risk of another haemorrhage, which worked on that score, but unfortunately they missed a bit, so I tried medical to shift it and eventually had to have another surgery.

Personally I’ve found surgery much nicer than the other options, but totally understand that for some people going through it conscious helps with closure. The risks are pretty small, and my consultant said that’s why they’re prepared to do it twice if necessary for the same MC. Remember that your uterus is capable of healing from the massive cut for a C section, so even if they did manage to nick you while they were doing the procedure it would heal again really quickly.

Good luck with whatever you choose, I hope it goes smoothly and you have support around you.

Hi,

So sorry for your loss ❤️ sending all the love in the world as I know it’s such a difficult time but you will come out the other side stronger, trust me.

I went for a scan at 6 weeks due to a subchorionic hematoma where they found an empty sac and so I had follow up scans at 7, 8 and 9 weeks. Unfortunately, the sac was still empty on each occasion. The process was so drawn out as they couldn’t class it as a miscarriage until the sac had reached a certain size, so I had 3 weeks of grieving and torture whilst debating my possible options for the miscarriage (medical, surgical or natural).

I was initially adamant I was going to choose surgery, however by the final scan I had scared myself out of it because of all the waiting around. By that point I was so desperate to get the sac out of me that I opted for the pills at the last second so I could begin treatment the same day, rather than waiting to go in for surgery later in the week.

This was on Monday - I took the pills at 12:45 and passed the sac 6 hours later at 18:45. The pain started at about 17:00 and was like a dull period ache which gradually got worse. I had prepared with new pyjamas, big pants, loads of snacks, a hot water bottle and took cocodomal/ibuprofen every couple of hours immediately after taking the pills. It was painful but bearable and the pain reduced considerably after passing the sac. I continued to bleed that evening and passed tissue/clots and I am still bleeding slightly now three days later but without pain. In fact I felt absolutely fine (physically) the morning after.

I know everyone is different and maybe I’ve been lucky but I am glad I opted for medical management and would opt for it again if I was ever unfortunate enough to be in this position again. For me, being able to experience the loss physically has helped me to process this mentally and put closure on the whole experience. Again though, I stress that we are all different and up until the last moment, I was seriously considering the surgery and acknowledge it’s probably the least traumatic.

I just wanted to tell you my experience of medical management which was somewhat bearable and ok, as there are so many accounts of horror stories on here.

Sending you best wishes ❤️

Thank you all for the responses. It's good to hear stories from others who have gone through it and also to realise that I'm not alone! I'm incredibly lucky to have a great support network around me so it's a massive help. I think I'm just wanting to get it sorted now so that I can start to move on as it's difficult to still be waiting.