4th miscarriage. partner now says he doesn't want another child.

[fourthloss]

I've just had my 4th miscarriage in a row.

One child already (4yo) - my partner has said to me tonight he doesn't really want another child now due to all of this grief and says we should just be happy with the one we have.

I feel even more heartbroken now as I have tried so hard for another child and went through all of this just to be told he doesn't even want one?

I have PCOS and I'm on clomid treatment.

This is so hard and cruel, I am so sorry OP 💐.
The grief and pain must be quite raw if it just happened, he might change his mind in a few weeks.

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP.

I was in a similar situation, although eventually I got to a point where I couldn't face actively trying again (whilst secretly hoping for miracle, until I got too old for it to be a possibility).

What I will say is, that whilst I will never feel completely ok about not being able to give my dd a sibling, the years when I was conceiving and miscarrying meant that I wasn't really as present as I could have been emotionally or physically and it wasn't great for her, me or my partner. The years go by fast and I missed a large amount of her second and third years being preoccupied by having another baby, and then coming to terms with it not happening.

He may change his mind, but from his perspective he is having to watch you go through pain and disappointment repeatedly when you already have a wonderful child together. I think it can be quite difficult for a lot of men to understand just what a woman is willing to go through in order to have a child. My partner also just really wanted us to get on with living rather than feeling pressure to ttc each month and the emotional rollercoaster. It wasn't that he didn't want another, but for him the pain wasn't worth it.

We are a few years on from it all now and I know that he doesn't remember or all the anniversaries like I do, which hurts a bit. But ultimately, we got through it and have a wonderful dd and we are happy. I hope that you get there too.