Friends baby shower.. I don't want to go.

[mythirdloss]

My oldest friend found out she was pregnant earlier this year, I found out two weeks later I was too. Unfortunately I suffered my third pregnancy loss in 3 years and mines ended at 11 weeks.

Fast forward to now and I've been invited to my friends surprise baby shower. I haven't been to a baby shower before and I didn't even have one with my first child (6 years ago)..

Am I being mean to not want to go? She would be disappointed if I didn't turn up, although I hope she would maybe understand why?

The thought of being in a room full of people cheering and celebrating a baby on when it could have been me.. makes me feel so much hurt. I'd have been due next month too.

Just be honest. Say that you might struggle with it and don't want to spoil her day. Send a well written card and present.

Definitely don't feel bad for not going. You need to look after yourself too. If she is your oldest friend she will understand ❤️

The typical MN response to this post is, “It’s an invitation, not a summons”. In your situation I would say you can’t make it OP. No excuse needed.

I have never attended a baby shower and never will. I will go to see baby when it’s born and take a “Congratulations” card for the parents and a gift for the baby.

I see no point in baby showers

OP, I am so sorry for your loss.

I think any friend would completely understand you not going in these circumstances.

My sister organised a baby shower for me recently, I had a friend who didn't want to go, ( ectopic pregnancy three months ago), and I completely understood and told her not to worry at all.

No decent person would be offended at you not attending in these circumstances, you have to put your own mental health first <3