MMC, MMC, Chemical : Any hope?

[Presently83]

I've just found out I'm having a chemical pregnancy. Which means in 11 months I've had a MMC with medical management at 11weeks, a MMC followed by a d&c at 10 weeks and now this at 4 weeks. (I haven't yet got my period but already pale tests have now pretty much faded completely.)

It's too much.

I feel like my body is rejecting babies earlier and earlier. I don't know how much more of this I can take.

Does anyone have any stories of hope? I really need some because I'm losing mine. I'm going to be 40 in January.

I wrote a bit about my problems on her and I wanted to tell you I have some good news (so far!) My husband and I have been trying again (we have children) for over a year. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks around June of last year, then November of last year a miscarriage at 5 weeks and in April of this year I had a chemical pregnancy. I'm now 8 weeks (fingers crossed) and am trying to relax but my (new) Dr. is confident this is a healthy, viable, pregnancy, there's an embryo with a heartbeat and all. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! ❤

Oh and I'm 35, my husband is in his 40s, and he has medical issues which have been a bit of a factor!

Im really sorry for your losses, it's so hard to cope with.

I wondered if you've read Lesley Regan 'Miscarriage: What every woman needs to know'? For me it helped make sense of my miscarriages and the fact that the timing of them can indicate different things.
Do you have scan notes which showed the dating of the fetuses when they stopped growing? This can give information about any possible causes, if there any.

I have also had 2 MMCs and reading the book lead me to get some private blood tests done which found I have a blood clotting disorder that may have been the cause of the first 2, and I'll need to inject blood thinners in my future pregnancies.
I haven't been brave enough to try again yet and taking a break for a few months has turned out to be what I needed.

I hope you can speak to some doctors and get some support, and maybe answers, in the coming bit of time if that's what you want.

Seaswimmings,
That was a fantastic read, I also read it. And I have to agree that the timing of the miscarriage can definitely help narrow down causes. For me, my specialist thinks its because of the corrosive scarring on my uterus. I could get pregnant, and the embryo could mature, but when it was time for it to borrow deeper (5-6 weeks ) it was unable to. The difference, I was told, was literally a few mm's difference in the implantation sites. I'm hoping this one stays put!
Much love ladies!

@Releasethehoundss @Seaswimmings thanks so much, both.

I haven't read that book but have read a billion others. Will add it to my neverending miscarriage book list.

In first MMC baby stopped growing around 7+5 but I started bleeding around 11+1. All looked perfect in the 7+3 scan.

Then in second I was having it monitored but HCG wasn't rising fast enough from about 6wks. Got to 10+5 before d&c but it was always measuring way behind so only got to about 7+5 in terms of size.

This time I only god to 4+4 before I started bleeding.

Nobody seems to be able to give me any answers. I was taking blood thinners this pregnancy and last but didn't make a difference. And progesterone this time even though my progesterone levels have always been good. Had the NK Cells immune testing, all fine. I expect it's just old eggs. Sigh.

Going to do ivf next I think to do PGT testing, but it's all so overwhelming. I feel like I've been crying and depressed and panicky for a whole year now. I'm so very tired.

@Presently83 I know you're tired. Hang in there and come here to talk. I've felt the desperation that comes with not having any answers, when doctors are supposed to be able to tell you what's what at the snap of a finger. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you dear! Come here and vent all you need, complain, moan or just write how you're feeling!