Dealing with a MMC

[Jolio123]

I just wanted to speak with people who have been through the same really. As I feel quite alone. I was 11 weeks pregnant today with my first pregnancy and noticed some minor spotting this morning. My GP was great and referred me to the early pregnancy unit. Sadly I had an ultrasound and baby had no heart beat. It had stopped at 8 weeks. Other than no heartbeat, the baby was well positioned. I’m trying to think positive but I just feel so deflated and disappointed. I feel like there is now no reason to be excited.

I have been given option to wait it out, or for a D&C. I am leaning towards the D&C option as it feels a lot less traumatic and over with quicker. Just wondered if anyone had any tips or experience of a D&C? I am in the UK.
I’m hoping this won’t impact future pregnancies, all I can think is my anxieties will be higher next time

I am sorry for your loss.
Our hospital just gave me a leaflet and told me to home and take painkillers if it got too bad so we booked into a local Private hospital where I received excellent care and had a D&C as I wanted it over with.
i then accidentally got pg 1 week later before my period even returned and yes, it was very stressful and I was basically pg for a year!
I don’t recommend doing that but it turned out ok and the result is almost 18 now!

I have had 2 missed miscarriages - the first time I had a d&c fairly quickly after finding out at 13 weeks. The second time I decided to wait and let nature take its course but after a week or so of waiting I decided against that plan and had took tablets to induce the miscarriage in hospital.

Sorry this is happening to you - it is just such a horrible shock and then can drag on. On a positive note, despite 4 miscarriages I now have 3 healthy boys. I do think it does mean that you cant enjoy pregnancy in the same way thougth for worrying about things going wrong.

Thank you for your message. It was such a shock as I had no really signs as such, i trailed these forums looking for positive hope but very mixed answers. As soon as the sonographer didn’t turn the screen quickly I knew something was wrong.
I think a D&C sounds like a better option, I am not sure I can emotionally drag this out if that makes sense

My very first pregnancy as a very young woman ended in mmc. Medical intervention and ended up with a bad infection.
Final pregnancy ended mmc at 8 weeks.
Passed an intact feotus at home.

Much preferable ime.
Sorry for your loss op.

Thanks for your message. Luckily the hospital and GP were great and couldn’t fault the service. The EPU nurse is going to ring me on Sunday and see if I have made a decision. I fell pregnant on our first try with this pregnancy! I hope it’s as soon next time but only time will tell. Lovely to hear your positive 18 year old outcome though!

So sorry for your loss

Mine was back in 2014 but I had a MMA which was a blighted ovum. The egg is fertilised and implants but then nothing develops. I had no adverse symptoms and I knew nothing was wrong until my 12 week scan. I opted for a D&C as clearly my body wasn't responding as it should and I didn't want to just wait around to see if things ended naturally. I had another scan a week later just to confirm the situation, and then they scheduled the op for a few days later.

It was all in all a miserable time, but choosing the operation did, in my opinion, make it easier to get through, as the worst bit was over in a day. The op was straightforward, and I was home the same evening.

Just some solidarity. I was 10 weeks today and had a scan 2 weeks ago with heartbeat then today's scan had no heartbeat. Had some brownish discharge this morning, felt like I was being a bit dramatic calling the EPU but glad I did. The sonographer didn't expect it, she was chatting away about old blood being good and the size of my bladder and then just stopped. Not sure I'll every forget that moment.

I cannot stop crying which is very unlike me. And I'm so so angry, not sure what or who at but I feel like any minor inconvenience will flip me over the edge. I'm so mad that everyone's life is going on and everything has changed for me. Thankfully I have kids to keep me busy.

Have booked in for surgical management (mva not D&C) on Wed, can change my mind and have medical. I am dreading every second of this week but I want everything done and to not be pregnant anymore. Tempted to take a large sleeping tablet and some cocodamol tonight before bed to get some sleep.

So sorry to hear your loss.
It does however make me feel less alone as it can be quite isolating, so Thankyou for sharing. Am glad you followed your gut feeling and got things checked out. I know how you feel, the words from the sonographer just keep playing in my mind.

I miscarried through the night last night. It was an awful feeling that I can’t quite shake/forget. All the Information I read and was given could never have prepared me for the sheer amount of blood and clots (Sorry TMI). I called an ambulance as was panicking but after 3 hours waiting it began to slow. If it is any help to your journey next week, now I know it’s over and happened I do feel a sense of relief? It was somewhat instant. Very odd to describe. I however feel guilty for feeling that way. Me and partner are still very much in a somber mood but trying to carry on with day to day life to keep my occupied.

Sending my thoughts and love to you

So sorry to hear you've went through this. I'm in a similar position. I was 11 weeks 1 day on 31st Aug when I had a tiny bit of brown spotting. Similarly felt I was going a bit overboard going to a&e where they assured me it was probably fine. Had a scan at epu next day and unfortunately no heartbeat. I decided to let nature take it's course and luckily that night things started. I was unprepared for just how painful/ traumatic it would be and am still passing large clots 10 days later (sorry if tmi). I think if things hadn't started naturally a D&C would have been best as when I got home I realised I just wanted it out. I'm also feeling a mixture of anger and incredible sadness. We waited 3.5 years for this pregnancy and am so devastated it's over. Truly thought we were getting our happy ending. You're not alone in this though, and it's not talked about enough. Sending hugs x