Pregnant after 4 early miscarriages and 1 MMC - Need some advice xx

[Ms8804]

Hi guys,

im 27 yo and my partner and I have been TTC for just over 2 years now. In that times we’ve had 4 early miscarriages and in the past April we had a MMC at 9.5 weeks which turned into waiting a week for a DNC which turned into a uterine infection from retained tissue, hospital stays, a lot of bleeding and a lot of trauma to work through.

Its September now and we have just found out we’re pregnant again for the 6th time. I’m 5 weeks today and wasn’t prepared for 2 lines this month and I just feel exhausted and terrified. I am truely grateful that this has happened again but I’m hoping you guys might understand that I just have this feeling of dread and am struggling to live in the moment.

can anyone who has been in this situation give some advice or some success stories? No one in my family or my partners family have gone through this so it’s hard to talk to them about it.

Sorry for your loss and congratulations on your current pregnancy. I can't give a success story yet but I have suffered 3 miscarriages. 2 spontaneous at 5-6 weeks and mmc found at 9 weeks but baby does at 6 weeks. I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant again and had a scan today. It's the furthest I've ever got so praying it's our time. Not sure where we would try if this one isn't successful!

We saw a private doctor who prescribed progesterone. All tests came back clear. Have you had test or currently on any treatment?

Thank you so much for your message. Sounds like we’ve had very similar histories. It’s so awful. With our MMC we found out at nearly 10 weeks but the baby had died at 8.5. Such an awful feeling.

Congratulations on your pregnancy ♥️♥️♥️ It’s such a confusing time between wanting to allow yourself to get excited and also trying to protect yourself after so many losses.

I have a referral to a fertility clinic but we were having a break from trying this year after the MMC in April so this is very unexpected and we haven’t gone to the clinic as we live rural.
I’ve had every test under the sun done (thyroid, progesterone, hormones, blood work etc) and they’ve all come back normal so he said we’re just going to see how this goes and if it doesn’t go well I’m going to call and get on the books.
Our MMC had genetic testing done and the baby had triploidy (3 sets of chromosomes) which is just a rare abnormality so we’re just waiting for results of karyotyping to come back after we saw a genetic counsellor.

Its a great sign that we can get pregnant, it just makes it so hard to allow yourself to be positive.
i am so happy to hear your further along then you’ve ever been, its absolutely terrifying. When are you due?

xxxx

@Ms8804 I think mmc are even worse because it makes you feel like something has gone wrong with each pregnancy after that but you just don't know it. Wish I could erase the memory of each miscarriage, can't imagine how it would feel to be excited about being pregnant rather than anxious.

That's good that all the tests you have had are clear. My progesterone test was fine too but I was told a progesterone test when not pregnant can sometimes be done but then it just doesn't rise sufficiently when pregnant. So maybe it's worth taking even if levels are fine?

I also had nk cells testing at Coventry with Professor Brosens who is great. I had one which came back really high and one really low so i couldn't have the treatment. But he did continue to prescribe other things to help. I think a self referral to that is about £500. If you haven't thought about this already. I also read the book, It Starts With an Egg and took all the supplements from that so hoping that might help too!

It sounds like the mmc couldn't be helped and that maybe that one was just bad luck. I really hope this one works out for you ❤️

I agree, knowing that we can get pregnant is great and it gives me so much hope for the future. Just have to nail the staying pregnant part!

Exactly! You get all the symptoms and the excitement and the good ultrasounds (we had 1 ultrasound that we were told was perfectly fine at 7 weeks) we told our families and everything last time because we were further along than we ever had been. This time around I don’t want to tell anyone until I feel happy, this is my 6th time being pregnant so the novelty of this stage has definitely worn off for me.

Thanks so much for the information, my doctor has been with us through all the miscarriages and he said because I had a technically successful pregnancy in the sense that I was able to carry but it was just the genetic side of thing we’re wrong that he said it wasn’t necessary to test my progesterone. Do you think I should ask him again?
I’m in a small town in rural Australia so we’re about 3 hrs away from any specialists unfortunately so we have missed the boat on being able to get specialist help at this stage, We wouldn’t be able to get into one for a few weeks/months time because they’re so booked up.
So what treatments did you take in the beginning of this pregnancy? I have read so many things and it all gets so confusing.
i hope you’re feeling well physically and aren’t feeling too unwell ♥️♥️