Blighted Ovum

[emes24]

I went for my second US today and told that I’m more than likely having a blighted ovum. Going back in a week to confirm, if I haven’t miscarried already.

I’m absolutely devastated, I am so upset this is happening after months of trying. I’m worried that when we try again, it’s going to take such a long time again and that this might happen again. I just feel like do I even bother with any of this anymore 😢😢

Hi OP sadly I'm in the same boat as you, I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's such a horrible experience. I thought I was 12 weeks, started to bleed so went to EPU, only for us to be told it was a blighted ovum and was only measuring 6 weeks. I passed the sac last Wednesday and Thursday and am still bleeding.
I am so sad tonight as I think the shock of the MMC is turning into grief, I'm so sad I'm not pregnant and we won't be bringing a baby home on our due date which was going to be valentine's Day.
It's fucking shit isn't it? How long were you trying for? We had 5 cycles. I just feel like I've lost most of this year. I'm mid 30s too so feel pressured, will it ever happen? I want to start trying again, and also just want to have sex with DH just to feel that closeness, but it's not safe til after the bleeding has stopped so I feel stuck just waiting and hating going to the toilet and seeing the blood.
Hope you're okay and have someone to hug and talk to.

Im so sorry you’re going through the same thing. I’m so upset, I can’t sleep. I just keep crying 😢 it had taken us from November (properly trying) and with a couple of breaks to fall pregnant. I’m just worried that it’s going to take a while again, and if I do fall pregnant again that this is going to happen. It really is shitty and hurts so much!

Not only do we have to go through this, it takes a while for our body’s to go back to normal so we can start trying again! I’m sure it will happen for us both, we have to try and remain positive even though it’s so hard xx

I'm so sorry emes24 and justsayso. I had a blighted ovum with my first pregnancy but was pregnant again 5 months later and went on to have 3 healthy babies with no problems. It's a long time ago now but I remember the grief and disappointment only too well. Please do remain positive. I am sure it will happen for both of you too.

So sorry this has happened to you! This happened to me last December. I thought I was around 8 weeks and went for a private scan which showed that the sac was only the size of 6 weeks and empty. I know it may not make you feel better but I think it's so much more common than you think, when it happened to me, I had never heard of it but from what I've read, it's one of the most common reasons of miscarriage, so don't think it's anything to do with just you or anything that you've done. From what I've read, nearly everyone goes on to have a successful a pregnancy/pregnancies and you only likely to ever experience one blighted ovum. I currently am pregnant again, 7 weeks. I haven't gone for a private scan yet due to the same anxiety and fear you have but I'm trying to stay positive and remember that only 1% of people experience more than one blighted ovum. After a misscarriage you are meant to be more fertile so you can try again! Again I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I know how frustrating and sad it is xxxx

Thank you so much for your kind response! It does make me feel a lot better reading your message, I need to remain positive. One day I will have a healthy baby! I’m sorry you also had to go through this and congratulations on your pregnancy ☺️ Xxx

After one normal period, you can try again and you're more fertile so probably will have lots of luck on your side 💕

Hi everyone. This is my first time on a chat group and a little nervous, thank you for sharing your stories i know how hard it must be to open up to strangers but it really does make me feel so much less alone when reading them. We have been trying for baby since 2020, in 2021 unfortunetly i had a blighted ovum, i too didnt realise how common they are and hadnt heard of one before! I was reasurred that its not likely to happen again, i was devastated but hopeful that we could try again, i let my body rest for 6 months and 8 months later became pregnant again, devastatingly another blighted ovum! I guess im now in the 1%. I have a 7 year old amazing little boy and had no problems when having him. Its been 9 months since my last miscarriage, we are trying again but our relationship has struggled at times as we have both been up and down and confused, feeling all sorts of emotions! We havent had regular sex but enough around ovulation but still no pregnancy. Gp wont refer for tests until we have had 3 which i think is pretty shit. To make it even shitter in the 2 years i have been trying there have been 4 babies born in my friendship group. I am so happy for them but becoming increasingly frustrated and upset with my situation, often feeling sorry for myself and how cruel it is to have an empty sac! Its just shattering and i really dont want to have to go through it all again ive found it all quite traumatic. If it happens again atleast i will be reffered for tests, but at the same time i feel it is cruel.
I have been reffered to gynaecology for tests as i have had regular periods but consistently heavy and so so painful! I am on the waiting list and could take months. I have also been reffered to counselling which consisted of a 20min rushed phonecall every 2 weeks which i didnt feel was beneficial or person centred, she has reffered me onto somewhere else for longer sessions but again another waiting list!
Sorry for the long post sometimes i just feel like i have no where to turn and keep hitting constant barriers and all i want is some answers :( i hate being in limbo and not knowing what is happening with no plan makes me so anxious. Seeing my little boy playing with little babies breaks my heart because he would be the best big brother.
Just wondering if anyone has been in my position, any suggestions and postivity welcome 🙏💜