How to mark a loss

[Violettaa]

I've had a miscarriage- fairly early and not terribly traumatic, so it doesn't seem tight to make a fuss. I know that sounds odd.

But I still feel like I've lost a baby and I want to mark it somehow to make it more real.

Any ideas?

Or tell me if this isn't a good plan and will just make me dwell on it.

Big hugs in regards to your loss. It's hard no matter how far along you were.
I had a loss and only found out I had been pregnant when I lost it, so I felt similar that it was odd to feel sad over it.

I bought a little small angel decoration to hang in the house to mark the loss. A friend who lost hers got a little forget me not tattoo to mark it.
Do anything that feels right for you, never odd or silly to mark a loss.

I felt the same, there was going to be a person who would completely change my world, and in a matter of days they were gone. I felt I couldn't really move on without marking it. Probably sounds cliche but I got a very small and discreet tattoo so that I can carry them with me. It's not obvious that it's a memento, no wings or tiny feet or anything baby related, but it has meaning for me and brings me comfort.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a follow up scan at EPU to make sure there was nothing left behind. They gave me a miscarriage info pack and in it was a small, blue, crochet heart. I have kept this in a small trinket box. Maybe someone or yourself could make something like that? Sending you hugs

The hospital gave me some forget me not seeds. I've planted them in a corner of my garden.

Other things I've known people do:
A bench in their garden with a little plaque on
Some councils have a little memorial garden where you can purchase a plaque
Naming a star or tree after them
A small tattoo
Making a charity donation perhaps to Tommy's or 4louis.
Buying an ornament for the house (or a bauble for the Christmas tree) as a little reminder maybe a small angel.
There's an amazing charity called aching arms that I think allow you to sponsor a bear on behalf of your child to give to another woman who has lost a child.
A piece of jewellery to wear to commemorate the baby.

There's lots of things you can do. Does your hospital do cremation services for all miscarried babies? Ours does one a month and I found it incredibly helpful. Like a really powerful acknowledgment that he'd existed. I was in two minds whether to attend but I'll always be happy that I did. The person doing the service said some very pertinent words that really stayed with me.

Please remember that yes it's fairly common but that doesn't make it any less heartbreaking. Here was a little person who was growing inside you for a short time but had the potential to change your life forever. Take the time you need to decide the best way to commemorate them.

A small item of jewellery? I have my baby's birthstones set into a bar shaped necklace (i chose to do the month they each entered the world, but you could do their due date's stone).

So sorry for your loss op.
I planted a rose bush in our garden to mark my miscarriage

I think this is a lovely thing to do