Experiences of medical miscarraige

[mower]

Had the second part of medical miscarraige yesterday in hospital. Sack was about 8 weeks and think baby died at least 3 weeks ago.
I bleed alot and had to stay in over night. My concern is they kept checking when I went to the toilet and I passed loads of blood clots, quite big ones too, but they kept saying that I hadn't passed the sack.
Theres me thinking that I would have to have scan and go on to have d and c but this morning they just sent me home saying the sack must have passed with the clots where as last night they said it hadn't.
If I get any big clots or lots of bleeding have to go back in.

I am so scared it is not all out and i'm going to get an infection and never be able to conceive again!

Can anyone put my mind at rest?

Hi mower,
I'm sorry you are going through this at the moment. I am miscarrying also at the moment, but doing it naturally. I'm also slightly paranoid about getting an infection.

i wish that I had some advice for you. I just couldn't read this and leave it unanswered. Try not to worry, and im sure someone with experience will come along in a bit.

Sending you big hugs.

Pink

mower - what you are experiencing sounds normal. Sometimes the sac will break up in your womb and come out in bits, mixed up with blood and clots. This is what happened to me during my last m/c - heavy bleeding, clots and 'bits' for about six days. I didn't need a follow up scan, and everything was fine.

During my first m/c the sac came out in one piece.

If you are concerned, you can ask for a follow up scan, but this may not be necessary.

It's a horrible thing to go through, you have my sympathies. Your hormones will be up and down for a good few weeks.

Pinkdolly, sorry you are going through this at the moment as well. How are you coping? I was a bit of a mess yesterday, but feel ok today as long as I don't think about it too much. I have two small ds who stayed with my mum and dad for the first time last night and I am so looking forward to seeing them and trying to get back to normal. At least for a while, until we try again!
Belgok, thanks for the reasurrance, the bleeding is not as heavy as last night now and glad that what I experience sounds normal. I have had so many scans, blood checks and things with this pregnancy not getting conclusion so just glad that it is over with now and HOPEFULLY no more complications in my healing process. Yes hormones feel up and down but very good at keeping things together, which I know isn't always a positive thing as crying and thinking about it helps to heal, but hey so far so good. Hope you don't mind me asking belgo but have you gone on to have a sucessful pregnancy. Am just so worried that this is the start of bad things to come. Going to wait three months before trying again.

mower - had two children before my two miscarriages. I am healthy, and there is no reason to suspect a problem , and the doctors are telling me to be hopeful for the future.

Miscarriages are unfortunately very common, most women I know have had miscarriages, and they have all gone on to have babies.

I wish you luck belgo, I agree most women I know as well seem to have experience some sort of problem either conceiving or miscarrying. Its such a messy busniess!

thanks Mower. And good luck to you as well. Medically, there is probably no reason for you to wait three months before trying again. It's totally up to you.

Mower- Emotionally i'm up and down. I found out on the 11th that my baby had died at 7 weeks (should have been 11+3). I think today is the first day that I've felt almost normal. Have had a lot of bad days. But i'm coping alright. I have 3 dds (5, 4 and 18 months) to occupy me. Though dh has been looking after them for nearly 2 weeks.

You will have up and down days, you have to expect that. Give yourself time to recover emotionally and physically. you'll get there.

I'm usually around if you need to chat. I have found it really helpful to chat to people who are going through/have been through the same thing.

Take care and look after yourself.
xx

pinkdolly - I'm sorry to hear about this - how are you physically? Have you miscarried naturally?

Belgo- Yes am m/c naturally. Still going through it at the momment. I started bleeding lightly the monday before my scan. And am still bleeding, I have to go back top the hospital on fri. So far I've been spared the pain, had one day when I could feel some pain, but nothing worse then when I was breastfeeding dd3 after she was born.

I'm hoping that it's nearly over, but every time I think it's stopping the bleeding seems to get heavier again.
I'm exhausted, I never thought it would take so much out of me. Literally today is the first day I felt I could do some cleaning, have been too shattered up to now.

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mower - i had a medical miscarriage in may and they didnt find the sac, i had to go back the next day and they checked my cervix which was closed which they took to mean that everything had passed. i had a scan 10 days later which confirmaed nothing was left and th bleeding had practically stopped at this point. i had positive pregnancy tests for 2 or 3 weeks afterwards and it was a good two weeks till i managed to make it through a day without bursting into tears. definitly agree with what others say about giving yourself time emotionaly as well as physically. we decided to start ttc straight after the mc (we felt it was ok) and i fell pregnant after my first af. im now 31 weeks with my 3rd daughter.

So sorry Mower
Getting an infection and possible infertility was my biggest fear when i had my d&c in August. My midwife told me that i would know if i got an infection (bleeding wouldnt stop, bad smell etc..) and they would give me antibiotics. I still went back to the EPU 10 days after the d&c and asked for a scan to check that it was all gone. I needed to know for my sanity. I hope you are looking after yourself (feet up, plenty of rest).

Sorry to hear about your mc pinkdolly, I hope you are doing ok

Hi Mower, Sorry you're having to go through this. I also had medical management and was in hospital where they examined everything and although there had been lots of clots etc they said the sac hadnt been passed. I thought it must have happened before I went in as I was bleeding heavily but I went on to pass it 5 days later so just to warn you that it may still be there and may still come out. They asked me to keep it if I did pass it but I decided to bury it in the garden as I couldnt really see it making much difference to my care. I had to go back for a scan anyway to check everything was gone. Hopw you are Ok.

I think however you miscarry (pills, dc, natural) you have a very small chance of infection.

As mentioned earlier be aware of any further heavy bleeding or strong smelling discharge or feeling unwell. If you think something is wrong then see someone immediately. If your doctor is unhelpful then go to an A&E.

Still statistically you are more likely not to have an infection.

I have just had two miscarriages this autumn one natural and one dc and so far everything seems ok.

Big Hug to you.

xxxx

I'm miscarrying naturally right now at 12 weeks, like pinkdolly. after scan showed embryo had died around 8 weeks. It started like crazy this afternoon with really painful contractions just like labour, passed loads of clots but no recognisable embryo.. DH came back from work to look after little DS. My plan is to go for a vaginal ultrasound afterwards to check if anything was left behind.. maybe a scan would set your mind at rest, mower. Thinking of you, it is really crap! one of the few experiences which is as bad as I was scared it was going to be (and childbirth wasn't as bad really!)

Mower, i had a blighted ovum (pregnant with no baby) i found out at 9wks at a scan, i requested to miscarry naturally, 3 weeks on still nothing except spotting, a further scan showed sac had doubles in size and was still there!!!! After 2 more weeks I requested / demanded a D&C, firstly so i could lay it all to rest and move on, secondly to avoid infection!!!xxxxx

Kezza your experience is the only experience I have yet found like mine. I went for three scans after suspecting something was up and each time sack had grown! Maybe I had a blighted ovum. Does it have any medical complications a blighted ovum or just like a normal miscarrage?

No complications.

Apparantly its a very common type of MC - when the egg and sperm are doing the work something is missed (sorry for the non technical talk)its as simple as that, just a fault in the initial making.
For all intensive purposes your body believes its pregnant and hence the sac just grows and grows, im not sure how long it would have gone on for had i not have had the D&C.

I found this really difficult as i believed that i had had a baby in there for 9 weeks and felt silly/stupid that there actually never was one, i was nauseous and had sore boobs all the usual symptoms but no baby. Im now pregnant again and have just gone past the dreaded 9 wk mark, I still dont believe that this pregnancy is viable even tho ive had a scan and all seemed well, im only too aware how easily nature takes over and things go wrong.

I really think if you have concerns that you have to speak to your GP or aftercare provider (EPAU, Midwife), its not acceptable to leave you waiting with bated breath and full of anxiety about your future. if you want a D&C bloody well demand one, you are entitled and dont letthem forget that.

I hope everything works out for you im sure you will be fine, remember that this DOESNT mean you wont go on to have a perfectly healtht pregnancy next time.

Even the best cake bakers sometimes get it wrong, this is what has happened to you, maybe one ingredient was missed, it really is as cut and dry as that (although not emotionally as i very well know) i just want you to be assured theres nothing wrong with you it really is one of those things.

(((( Loadsa love and hugs )))

also i see no need to wait (medically), you only need to wait if emotionally you cant do it.
So So many people on MN alone have gone on straight away to try again and succeded. Ifyou want to try you get on and try!!xxxx

Sorry its me again, i also just wanted to tell you but not alarm you that it would still be a VERY good idea once you think its all out and passed to get checked out via a scan or something, Pelvic iflammatory disease and endometriosis can be caused by fragments of pregnancy being left behind, thus causing further problems ( i was recently before conceiving being investigated for this as it took me so long to conceive after MC - almost 2 yrs)Failing a scan, a simple prescription of anti biotics will kill of any infections and you are sometimes given these as a precautioary measure anyway - as i said speak to GP etc for peace of mind and answers x x x x

I am sorry to hear about your loss hun. I have had 2 miscarriages in the last 6 months first one at 12 weeks and second at 6 weeks.

12 week one was completely different to 6 week one. 12 weeks i passed the baby (at home in my bathroom) and you could see it was a baby and also passed the sack too. Not a very pleasant experience at all. Effectively went into labour was having contractions etc.

6 week one was like a very ehavy period with little clots in it. This one was 5 weeks ago.

I have been signed off sick since i lost one in june with depression (hate to admit it) and i have been ridiculously down cos both the babies we tried for haven't made it. I have a 22 month old DS. Who wasn't planned but is my world. I worship the ground he walks on after the last 6 months.

Just starting to feel normal again and starting to do everyday things like cleaning the kitchen etc. It has taken me a long time to pick myself up and god knows what i would have done without DH.

So yes its normal to feel crap etc!