Just found out I've lost baby at 7+5 :(

[rach971]

I'm around 7+5 today and I've just found out at a private scan that baby stopped growing at approx 7 weeks :( She said she couldn't see a heartbeat anymore, and the yolk sac looked like it was collapsing. Got a scan at EPU Thursday morning to confirm.

The reason I went for the scan was due to having brownish/pink discharge starting yesterday evening.

I'm devastated, but not shocked. I had a feeling right from when I found out I was pregnant just over 4 weeks ago that something was going to go wrong. I don't know why I felt like that, but I just did. I've had one pregnancy before which was completely fine, no complications, barely even any symptoms, but a totally healthy pregnancy and my daughter is now 7.

It's horrible not knowing why I've lost this baby, and whether it'll happen again next time around. It's felt like so long knowing I was pregnant even though it was only around a month. I tried to do everything right, took the vitamins, started eating better, relaxed a little more...

Has anyone here been pregnant after loss? Some positivity stories if anyone has any? My daughter is from a previous relationship and me and my partner desperately do want a child together. But I'm so put off now this has happened. I'm scared of waiting around all that time for the same thing to happen again. What if I get pregnant and MC again. What if it takes ages to get pregnant? It's draining.

Thank you if you read this far, it means a lot. And any and all stories you can share with me I'll be grateful to hear ♥️

Sorry for your loss. Unfortunately it's not uncommon for a pregnancy to end this way. I had one at a slightly earlier date and another a week or two later. Followed by an easy and successful pregnancy.
Sometimes there's a reason that can be addressed in future, sometimes not.
Be kind to yourself and take some time to process what's happened to you.

So many women have had a baby after a miscarriage 😊I mean millions so please don't worry about that.

It sounds like you are catastrophising a bit. Try to slow down your thinking and take it one step at a time.

Find out when it is recommended that you try again and take it from there.

Try not to worry about problems that aren't even there yet. Hopefully you will get pregnant again before too long and it will work out. Many women find it hard to relax until the baby is actually in their arms because we all know things can go wrong but it sounds like you are doing all the right things😍.

And yes I had a missed miscarriage after 12 weeks and I remember it felt terrible having to start all over again and then worrying but all was well.

Best of luck.

I'm really sorry this has happened and please give yourself time to grieve properly.
You asked for positive stories.
I've been through it three times, Each time was of course awful but the first two times I felt a bit better once the due date had passed.
The third time I got pregnant again straight away and everything turned out well that time.

Be good to yourself at this time. Sending a hug your way.

I'm so sorry to hear this and do know how it feels. My first pregnancy went the same way. Stopped growing at 7 weeks and picked up on a private scan at 8 weeks. I subsequently went on and had a very straightforward pregnancy with a DS who is now 21 months and am currently 13 weeks pregnant again. Nothing you did will have caused this to happen. Unfortunately 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. But having one miscarriage does not indicate it is likely to happen with subsequent pregnancies. If you are keen to try again, just give your body a little time to heal and continue taking your vitamins. It will happen for you.

I'm so sorry your going through this op. I miscarried last July I was heartbroken, I felt the same as you that I either wouldn't get pregnant or would miscarry again so I left it a while before trying I didn't know if I even wanted to try again but I did and I'm now 5 months pregnant. I got pregnant the first month of trying and I'm 37! Take care of yourself and don't give up hope.

I had a couple of MCs in a row, including one like yours, but a little later along and no pink/brown discharge to warn me. That was my first pregnancy and has really shook my going forward.

I've since had 1 healthy baby and on my second pregnancy (past where I lost my precious ones) so you can definitely be fine again!

@Beamur Thank you. I don't think I'd realised how common it was until I started researching a bit more due to having a bad feeling about this pregnancy. I thought it was quite rare, because it's not often openly spoke about so you don't realise many people have experienced it.

@Chamomileteaplease Thank you. I think I do catastrophise and I definitely worry about problems that aren't there. It's a trait I wish I didn't have unfortunately. I find it very hard to not worry about things and over think things. That being said, I worried all throughout this pregnancy and look what's happened. The worrying hasn't changed the outcome, or made a difference, so it wasn't worth it. Fingers crossed for the next time around 🤞

@MovinOnUp Thank you for replying 😊 I'm glad it was third time lucky for you. It sounds like you had quite a gap between pregnancies as well? I'm half hoping I get pregnant again quickly, but what will be will be. As I've discovered.

@STom2 Thank you. What happened after your 8 week scan if you don't mind me asking? Did things happen naturally or...? As I've just said to someone else, I don't think I realised how common miscarriage was until recently. I thought it was quite rare because no one speaks about it much so you don't realise a lot of people have gone through it.

I'm another one that had healthy babies after this! It's very common and doesn't mean that you won't have a successful pregnancy in the future. It's nature's way - there was probably something very wrong with the embryo which meant that it wasn't viable.
Just recover and try again, best of luck.

@Moomoo2o22 Thank you. I'm so happy for you! 🥰 Hearing stories like that definitely gives me hope.

@startfresh Thank you so much, it's really reassuring hearing positive stories. I know there's a high chance I'll conceive again and go on to have a healthy pregnancy, I just tend to over think and worry and in my head I'm like 'what if I can't even conceive again, what if I do conceive and just keep having miscarriages'. But what will be will be and worrying won't help/change anything. As I've learnt.

@rach971 I waited a few weeks for things to happen naturally and then I bled for about 2 weeks off and on. Unfortunately in my case things didn't complete naturally so I had to book in for an ERPC. This was very straightforward and in hindsight if it were to happen me again I'd go straight for the medical management route - moreso to help with moving on quicker as for me, the process from start to finish ended up being a couple months. But you have some time to decide. For now just process what's happened and rest up. You can decide what's best for you in a few days. xx

@rach971

Posted too soon, I wanted to wish you all the best.

@Maireas Thank you so much for reassuring me ♥️

@STom2 Are there other options before it happens naturally, or do they prefer it to happen naturally and then they only intervene if necessary? Just I phoned in sick to work yesterday and today because obviously I don't mentally feel like going in, but then I was going to take the rest of the week off while 'things happen'. However it's not progressed to anymore than brown spotting when I wipe, despite baby's heartbeat stopping around a week ago. I just can't be off work indefinitely, I can't afford it for one. I have days off booked next week so I'm off until the Friday then. But I don't know whether to just go back the rest of this week if nothing is going to happen. I'll have to see what they say at EPU in the morning. Can definitely tell I'm no longer pregnant though because I had a lump/bump super low down and I can't feel it anymore :(

@MovinOnUp Thank you so much ♥️

@rach971 Your EPU will usually offer you the different options, so I'd imagine you can choose the medical management route when you speak with them, rather than waiting for things to progress. If it's the same as my EPU this is usually something they can book in for you. Whatever option you decide on, you will need time off work for your body to recover, so hopefully you can arrange this. xx

@STom2 Thank you, what do they do during the 'medical management', do you know if it's painful? I know you can be put to sleep but I'd like to avoid that 😩

@rach971 I had an ERPC which involved general anaesthetic. But it was very straightforward and I was sent home same day. The other option is usually a D&C. I don't know too much about that one but many opt for this over an ERPC.

I’m so sorry for your loss

I lost a twin pregnancy in April and 5 months on I’m still grieving. I have no other children and we are ttc again

Miscarriages are so common, but that doesn’t mean you can’t feel upset or grieve your loss. It is normal to have feelings of “will this happen again” and you shouldn’t feel bad for worrying it is completely natural

Grief and loss makes us feel irrational at times, there are many times I feel positive since my loss and many times I feel like I’ll never be a mum and have a baby.

Millions of people have miscarriages and still go on to have a healthy pregnancy. Like some above comments it is nature’s way it is sad but it is common, myself my mum and Nan have all had losses.

Look after yourself OP and keep the hope
You will have a healthy baby soon ❤️

@rach971 i was in the same boat as you, private scan at 8 weeks but baby stopped growing at 7. I had no bleeding or pain whatsoever before the scan. I had medical management, where I live you have to be in hospital for the duration. It was just pessaries and then tablets taken orally. I started bleeding straight away but I didn’t pass the pregnancy tissue over 2 days staying in so decided to go home and give it a week to see if anything happened. A few days later I passed the pregnancy tissue, I had very very minimal cramps, and honestly didn’t bleed that much, all pain went away straight after. I had read loads of medical management horror stories on here so was so anxious but honestly my experience was absolutely fine!
sending lots of love, I’m waiting to stop spotting now and hopefully will ovulate soon so we can ttc again xxx

@STom2 Thank you. I'll await what the hospital say tomorrow. Glad to be able to have some options as nothing is progressing naturally as yet.

@Essexgalttc Thank you for understanding, and best of luck on your journey ttc again, I have my fingers crossed for you! I don't think it's helped that I've been on Google a lot today and found out previous cesareans can increase MC risk. My daughter was born via cesarean 7 years ago. That being said, during the scans I had in this pregnancy no one has mentioned anything about the cesarean scar or anything related to it, so I'm assuming that can't have been the cause but who knows. I feel like if I've had one successful pregnancy previously then surely it can't be anything wrong with me or my body, like low levels of anything etc. But then 7 years have passed since then so. I'll definitely be ttc but if it happens a second time I think I'll be looking for some answers :(

@ChloeN Thank you for sharing. It's also reassuring to know the process hasn't been bad for you. I've read some horror stories myself and it's a tad scary. It's just hard because I've taken today and yesterday off work, but I can't be off a long time and I don't want to be off for two, three weeks while the inevitable happens. Then if nothing happens do I go back to work and take time off again once it starts. It's such a complicated situation. Are you going to track your ovulation? I got pregnant on the first cycle of ttc and we weren't tracking anything, but this time I've bought ovulation tests. I've also bought pregnancy tests to make sure I get a negative one before we ttc.

@rach971 my medical management was on a weekend so I went back to work on Monday, I was working when it happened on Wednesday (I am self employed tho so I was at home) and it was fine, I could of coped with it in public!
me too, first time trying and didn’t track anything, I’m not sure for this cycle, I have bought tests to track ovulation but not sure if it’ll just end up making it worse with the added pressure of testing everyday!

@rach971 Google can be your worst enemy sometimes. I was told by midwife that 90% of miscarriages are due to chromosome issues with baby and there’s nothing anything you did or your body has done to cause that. I know that having infection after c section or damage due to that can be a slight increased risk but it is very unlikely the cause.
Please please do not beat yourself up or blame yourself or your body ❤️

It takes a lot of strength to try again after a loss so you are very strong, brave. Sending baby dust

@rach971 This is very unlikely to have happened because of your c section. Especially if you had scans prior to this one where nothing was flagged up. I had a c section with my DS nearly 2 years go. I got pregnant in April (almost 18 months later), and had an early MC. They did a scan and said it was very likely the pregnancy had tried to attach itself to my c section scar and that's why it did not progress. I'm currently 13wks pregnant again (got pregnant before having a period after last MC), and they did an early scan and specifically checked placement of the pregnancy and that it was far away from c section scar. This was without knowing of my previous MC. It seems to be something they routinely check if they know you've had a c section before.