Abortion sadness need support

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Just needed somewhere too talk . I have been so desperate for baby number 3 for a while then I found out I was pregnant , from the start I felt so unexcited and filled with fear and worry. I was so scared and I don't understand why . Then after about the first week my belly constantly hurt I just wanted too sleep all day do nothing and I felt nauseous all the time :( . I worked myself up so much if I seen baby clothes or anything baby related I would feel like I was going too throw up . I felt so unattached and nothing like I did with my other 2 pregnancies .I really didn't understand and still dont now why I felt like this when it was something I had wanted .

I thought it can't be right feeling like this towards a baby like what if I felt like this when they was here like why am I so unhappy about it . I decided on an abortion I had a medical one as was only early 7 weeks . But now after it's over im so sad I don't understand why I felt the way I did and what have I done. I'm so confused and so sad I was relieved too wake up today not feeling ill for the first time in weeks but then that passes and I just can't believe what I have done and cry

Be kind to yourself. You made the decision because of the way you were feeling.
I hope you feel better soon.A hand hold from me.

Thats exactly how I felt . I was so terrified I couldn't understand why I felt so sad about being pregnant when it was what I wanted so much . I still don't understand now . This is how I'm struggling most of the day I'm okay and think like at least I can do stuff with my other kids and they have there own rooms etc and I did the right thing that I wouldn't be able too do if I had a baby , then sadness will just take over out of the blue and I feel like what did I do why couldn't I just soilder on threw it it would of worked out in the end .

Im 37 too and my partner 38 . Our children are 5 and 7 . I was so lonely in the early days with them and was so scared too go back too it and someone needing me every second of the day . It's just such a tough one I don't understand any of it . Hope you feel okay if you want a chat just message not sure how messages work but I'm sure will figure it out x

Thankyou x

I know these posts are nearly a month old, but I am also n a similar situation and would love to know how you are both doing? After nearly 2 years of being desperate for the ‘missing’ third child I finally came to terms that with my 2 dc, we were a complete family of 4. We even went in the holiday we could never have with a 3rd child.

I arrive home and feel truly happy for the first time in years. We made a good choice and it is the right thing for us as a family. I am also a little tired and feel a bit sick - holiday exhaustion? 3 days later I take a pregnancy test, just to be sure. Two lines, straight away. I always thought I would be thrilled with a surprise pregnancy, but I wasn’t.

I have a 5yr old and a 2 yr old who has just started to become really independent. The end of the baby stage has arrived and now here we are facing it all again. We agonised over the 3rd child debate and came down on the side of no. I am 43 years old and 8 weeks pregnant. My husband is almost 50. I can’t believe it as I have had ivf for all my pregnancies. Thanks don’t usually make it past 6 weeks. I feel guilty, stupid and selfish and deeply, deeply torn by the decision to terminate, but the fear of birth defects or learning disabilities and the effect of that on my other children has, I feel, forced a decision to end the pregnancy. I take the first pills tomorrow and would love to know how you guys are doing? What did you decide and how are you recovering?

xxx

Thanks Polly. It was actually quite helpful to read your experience. Thank you for sharing. Wishing you many fun adventures with you family of four. Xxx