Not really sure why I'm writing this all down here but I feel like I need to tell someone before I tell anyone irl , also if anyone could share their experiences of what to expect I would really appreciate it 😞
So my husband and I were ttc for a while, it was quite stressful and upsetting and we started looking into fertility treatment because it just wasn't happening. Its something we both have longed for so we were elated about getting out first positive in June.
Fast forward to our reassurance scan where we thought we were 7+4 to be told baby is measuring behind by 2 weeks but looked healthy and had a heartbeat ♥️
I had a bad feeling about this but I kept being reassured that there wasn't an obvious problem and that it could just be growing slow etc.I knew I hadn't got the dates mixed as we'd been ttc.
All the while I've had really strong symptoms, really sore boobs, throwing up 6+ times a day etc.
Yesterday night I seemingly spontaneously started bleeding & cramping 😞 it was pinkish to start with and turned very red within half an hour . Enough to cover the toilet roll when wiping but only spotting on a pantry liner. I was advised to go to a&e so waited there for 4.5 hours to be seen by a gynae dr who checked my cervix and took some bloods.
My bloods were over 20,000 hcg, which I was told was quite high (explains the sickness!) & my cervix was closed. She booked me in with EPU this morning and I went to bed last night with a glimmer of hope even though I was still bleeding and still having cramping.
Anyway today we went to the EPU and got our scan, to be told our very much loved and wanted first baby's heartbeat had stopped beating and that it was only measuring 6&3 , a further week behind than it should have been ( so 3 weeks in total) I asked the sonographer if the baby had died and she confirmed it had .
I just laid there holding my husbands hand as we both sobbed. How cruel to long for a child for so long for it to be snatched away from us like this, I just cannot get my head around it 😭 she showed us the screen and gave us a little print out and it just broke my heart as it looks noticeably bigger than it did on our first scan.
The nurse came to talk to us afterwards and she told us to wait a week to check if it grows anymore or to see if expectant management happens.
I'm under no illusions the baby is going to get a heartbeat again and start growing, but I am wondering what I can expect this week as I wait to properly miscarry? Has anyone got a similar experience of this? Im really scared. Hoping it just happens naturally & the fact that I've already started bleeding a bit is a good indicator for this.
I've been so anxious from ttc to finally getting pregnant and I just do not know how I am going to recover from this , it's just the most painful, awful experience and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
If anyone is in a similar position and you want to talk or vent I'm here and I understand what you are going through 💐
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mariabombia · 29/07/2022 16:52
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