Not knowing driving me mad

[Scorpio8]

A couple of weekends again I had a very bad cramp on my right side as I got up from the bed. Then right side was very sore. I haven't had any bleeding at all but worried when I go to the next scan there will be no heartbeat. I have rang EPU whom said unless bleeding they won't scan me. Because I had a scan and saw a heartbeat it's all fine to them.
Then I went to the doctors because maybe I thought Uti. Turns out I do have this. So maybe that caused the cramp and soreness.
I spoke to midwife she did seem a bit more concerned but said EPU are like that but at least no bleeding.
I got to wait until knowing possible miscarriage it's really annoying me now.
Even since that weekend haven't really felt pregnant although carrying on like I still am holding on to hope.

I am sorry for anyone who going through miscarriage at the moment.

Has anyone suspected they had miscarriage but was kind of ignored and had to wait until 12 week scan?

I was told to do another test but actually scared and don't want to now.

I will be 9 weeks this week if still pregnant. I honestly feel so different.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Pregnancy symptoms can come and go and some cramping is normal. The guidelines around when you can/can't get scanned are frustrating and seem to vary from hospital to hospital. My EPU wouldn't even consider scanning me until I was nothing through 2 pads an hour. Just a heads up that even bleeding may not automatically get you the care you want but hopefully it doesn't come to that.

@ZoeQ90

I am just holding onto hope that all is okay. The right side cramp I had to hold my side it was very painful. My guy said be careful. Then it got very sore so even thought a cyst or ovary.
Then think it could be because I held my bladder that night as I must of been very tired.
I am not being funny as I seen on here not everyone has bleeding do they when they miscarry. I just annoyed got to wait and highly anxious when this could of be solved in one day. EPU is what I thought really.
I can't pay privately although very tempted too.
I do have to try carry on not think of the pregnancy. Not looking for to the scan at all. My guy just don't get it he being positive and he just lost his mum and thinking of anything happens how he going to be.
It's too much right now and very stressed.

i'm so sorry. unfortunately, confirmation of very early miscarriage rarely happens in one day which i don't think anyone realises until they go through the process. usually you need multiple scans and/or multiple days of HCG testing. This is because early on it's hard to know if any size discrepancies are due to lack of growth or incorrect dating or difficulty measuring.
the shock of this uncertainty and delay is so so hard. i kind of expected it to be as quick and certain as finding out you're pregnant, pee on a stick, two minutes later, done.
hoping it's still all positive for you eventually.

@ZoeQ90

I know probably should do another test but just cling on to the hope.

I have a 15 year old so it's been awhile. I remember bleeding early but was told rest everything was fine.
For me never really had all the early Pregnancy stuff. It's late pregnancy that I be scared off too lost baby before my 15 year old.

Thanks for advice

unfortunately a test won't tell you anything at this stage, I tested positive for 2+ weeks after I had a private scan showing miscarriage complete. I'm so sorry you've lost a baby before.

@ZoeQ90

I have to wait until 24 August and I feel so angry right now. I am clinging to hope but so worried something wrong.

I feel that day if something is wrong which I really hope it's me and everything fine. I am going to flip in the scan room.
I even don't want my partner with me.

The midwife said if you get bleeding and cramps she book me in EPU. No bleeding so I will wait. I had cramps but nothing so just put it down to other things.

Until then it feels like it's really driving me crazy.

@Scorpio8 it's so so hard. mental wellbeing counts for nothing apparently. i was on holiday in England whilst miscarrying, spent 2 days in A&E, the first did my HCG but wouldn't scan, the second one I went back for 48hr HCG but they wouldn't do anything at all because I wasn't actively bleeding, even though my previous HCG was far too low for the weeks gestation I was. I sat outside A&E and absolutely wailed like a banshee. I was beside myself. I felt completely abandoned and uncared for. My local EPU had said even when I got home they wouldn't do anything because my HCG was so low, unless I was bleeding through more than two pads an hour. I ended up getting a private scan which confirmed miscarriage complete. I do not know how I would have managed another two weeks to my 12 week scan.

@ZoeQ90

I am definitely going to get private scan now I can't wait no more.

I do feel something wrong on my right side still sore after that cramp.

Maybe twisted ovary I don't know.