41 and fourth miscarriage

[MsStar247]

Hi all, as the title says I am currently experiencing my fourth miscarriage in 18 months 💔 I have what I thought was my ideal number of children and the first miscarriage was a total lockdown surprise pregnancy. Devastated and thinking it was a one-off we tried again to the same outcome. Saw a consultant who said two MCs was very common and tried again with progesterone and aspirin which led to MC no 3.
After the third (four months ago) I read It Starts with the egg and implemented all the recommendations and also gave up alcohol just in case. I was carrying an extra kilo which I lost and felt fab. Have again been on progesterone and aspirin (150mg) a day and started miscarrying today at 5 days and 4 (in a service station loo with the kids all in with me and a four-hour journey still ahead of us 😢)
So the losses have been at 5 weeks four days, six weeks, six weeks and one day and five weeks and four.
Because I already have three children (had no issues having them and had the last one a year before the first MC) I have been loath to go down the exploration route as I have heard of so many people doing all the tests and not finding anything out or possibly finding out that we need IVF which wouldn’t be an option financially.
After all this pain and heartbreak though I don’t know if I can handle never knowing what went wrong, even if this is it. Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation and has any advice. Thanks so much for reading xxx

I have no useful advice, but wish I could give you a hug. I’m so sorry this has happened.

Sorry to hear this OP. I hope you're taking care of yourself today xx

Thank you x

@MsStar247 hi i am in a similar situation same age same amount of recurring miscarriages. I had all type of tests done and nothing major so got heparin/aspirin/progesterone and so on.. but still no luck. I was told this is due to the quality of my eggs and at that stage it is just luck! How did it got for you? Did you persevere? Did you end up to get pregnant? Thank you!! X

Hi there, it ended up that I had adhesions attaching my ovaries to my bowel causing all sorts of issues and definitely causing the early miscarriages IMO. I had them released by a surgeon and he was adamant that that would solve the issues as my numbers were very positive. I was too afraid to try again and we had moved past it we thought when I got accidentally pregnant again (ovulated at a totally different time than usual). For that pregnancy I didn’t take any progesterone or anything and I did get past that six/seven week period that the four miscarriages happened at. But unfortunately I still ended up having a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks 🥹 Personally I think that the adhesions had caused the previous issues and on this occasion it just was a poor quality egg/bad luck. Suffice to say I didn’t have the capacity to try again and now a year on I have come to terms with the losses. This is a lot easier for me though because of my other children, if it weren’t for them I am sure I would have rolled the dice again. I am glad I got to the bottom of the original issue though as it was driving me crazy (elevated ca125 was the clue that there was some inflammation present which proceeded the surgery) I wish you all the very best now and hope you will get answers and the luck you need xx

@MsStar247 thank you😊 yes I think because I have only one who is asking for a sibling then it makes the whole process even harder and draining. I am struggling to come to terms with not having another one 😞. I might still trying but I know we won't go down the ivf route as it is so expensive and not even guaranteed due to to my eggs! Thanks again for answering! xx