Waiting to MC hell

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Hi all, just hoping for some virtual support really.
I got my BPF 15th June, but IC pregnancy tests were still faint a week later so got bloods taken 48 hrs apart (236-394) which are very low for 25 DPO. I have a scan on Wednesday but have started very lightly bleeding/ abdominal cramping the last two days.
Docs and midwives keep trying to give me hope (HCG has increased, bleeding isn’t heavy etc) but I just know it’s not right and will likely MC. I’ve had two previous losses (TFMR) so just feeling a bit anxious to have this pregnancy end so I can move on. Struggling to deal with it emotionally so just want the limbo to end. I am very lucky to have 2 beautiful DS’s keeping me busy but it’s still just so overwhelming.
I’m WFH today but really nervous at the thought of going into the office tomorrow and possibly miscarrying there. I know it can take hours, days or weeks to happen so I guess I need to be patient. Just a question, I’m expecting the ultrasound wont show much but will they have to scan me again a week later to confirm or will I be able to opt for medical management afterwards?

In terms of waiting and needing a second scan, I think it depends on how sure you are about your dates and when you got a positive result.
I was reasonably sure of my dates but didn’t do a pregnancy test for a while (thought I was menopausal not pregnant), and this has caused an issue now I’m miscarrying. I went to EPU for scan and they explained to me the gestational sac needs to measure 25mm before they can confirm MC, and mine was only 18mm. As I’d only done a pregnancy test 4 weeks ago (instead of 7/8 weeks ago, which is how far along I should have been according to dates) there’s a chance I could have got my dates wrong, or it took longer than average to implant, so therefore they must rule out the possibility of being less far along than expected, before taking action. Therefore I’m being scanned again in 2 weeks to check things haven’t developed. They can only date from the positive pregnancy test if they are going to diagnose a MC, incase they make a mistake. This is my understanding anyway.
that being said, I had red blood bleeding in early pregnancy at 5 weeks previously. It came and went until I was past 12 weeks. Unexplained. I went on to have a healthy baby. I would stay positive until you have the scan.
Im so sorry you are going for this. I am currently waiting for my second scan, even though I know I’ve miscarried and the sonography told me privately that she bribed this is a MMC, but can’t move on unless things happen naturally. I’ve had a missed one before, somehow I just know it’s not going to happen naturally, I just have to wait.
I really hope you get positive news, or are at least able to move on in a way that’s least traumatic. It really could all be fine, speaking from experience. X

Thanks for your response and kind words. Sorry to hear you’re going through something similar, I can’t imagine the stress of waiting another 2 weeks. I do know my dates for sure as I was using OPKs and only had sex the 2 days preceding ovulation so at least I can confirm that and hopefully they will let me move to the next step more quickly. Such a horrible feeling wanting to not be pregnant again after it’s all I’ve wanted for so long.