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Feeling so lost and confused

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user1469032438 · 25/06/2022 22:18

I had my 12 week scan on Thursday, the sonographer was very vague but said there wasn't much development and we needed to go upstairs to the emergency gynaecology unit where they would talk to us some more

In the EGU they said they suspected a molar pregnancy and I needed a D and C (can't remember what they call them now) and they would do it the next day which I had done yesterday under a general anaesthetic and now I'm waiting for histology results.

But I just feel so lost, if it was a molar pregnancy then it wasn't even really a miscarriage but I still feel like I've lost a baby and that makes me feel insensitive to people who really have had miscarriages. I feel like a fraud, I feel like I have no right to be sad and that makes me feel worse for feeling sad I can't explain very well. I just feel trapped in a vicious circle of sadness and guilt.

I don't really know what I want from this, I don't feel like I have anyone I can talk to in real life and was hoping writing it down might help it make sense in my head.

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Worldwide2 · 25/06/2022 22:24

You very much have suffered a loss it was still a pregnancy. I'm so sorry you must be heartbroken. Don't feel guilty about your feelings, feel what you feel. Have the offered you any kind of counselling? 💐

ZoeQ90 · 27/06/2022 16:53

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It is definitely a loss, no different to if you'd had a standard pregnancy and lost it. You spent weeks thinking of your little one and getting attached. Please don't feel any guilt about your emotions.

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