Day 3 of my miscarriage, hoping for some positive uplifting and hopeful words for the future?

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Hi everyone ☺️

I am currently going through a miscarriage, coming to the end of the bleed as we speak and I feel so unbelievably low. I had managed my expectations, about the time it would take to conceive but I stupidly never expected to lose the pregnancy so quickly (just over 5 weeks) and I am surprised at how much it has affected me emotionally, I just feel so sad. I feel silly because I only thought I was pregnant for around 10 days, but those 10 days both myself and dp were so blissfully happy and we made so many nice plans, included planning around telling both our parents. I feel such an idiot now. Both myself and dp had been taking vitamins and eating healthily (included coq10, zinc, folic acid, vitamin C,D and E and fish oil) for the last 6 months and it must have given me a false sense of security that everything would be okay. Of course I am now panicking that there is something wrong with me, and I really fear that it's going to happen again/ keep happening.

I suppose I am looking for practical and emotional advice and a pick me up. A few qs if that's okay!

1. I havent yet told my GP but I did do a self refer questionnaire before the miscarriage, to let my local hospital know of the pregnancy. Do I need to tell my GP? I have been bleeding quite heavily over the last 3 days but only had a very small amount of tissue, is this normal?

2. how long did it take for you to ovulate again? I think because it was an early pregnancy, I can start trying again as soon as I do, hopefully sooner rather than later 🤞

3. Is there anything else I could do to prevent it from happening again? i am so worried there is something wrong with me! (I am 31)

4. Any hopeful or positive words would be really appreciated! Has it happened to you and if so, did you go onto a successful pregnancy?

So sorry if you have been through the same, it really is a truly awful experience 💔

Oh love, it's so awful, I'm sorry you're going through it and am glad you're coming to the end. As it is so early you don't necessarily need to tell your doctor unless you notice anything unusual about the bleeding or afterwards, but for peace of mind you might want to go to an Early Pregnancy Unit at a hospital. They will do a scan and a urine test to confirm you were pregnant and that everything has passed. I was able to just show up at the EPU to be seen when I started bleeding and they confirmed the miscarriage.

I miscarried at 9w and I think went straight into normal cycles. I got pregnant again soon after and he is sat beside me now.

Miscarriage is incredibly common, it is unlikely that there is anything wrong with you, it is I'm afraid just one of those things.

I wish you all the best in what comes next and hope that soon you will feel better.

I’m so sorry for your loss. My experience has been almost exactly the same, I miscarried at 6+5 and have been so low ever since. Saw my parents this weekend which is when we were planning on telling them and it’s been heartbreaking. You absolutely shouldn’t feel silly about any of it, it’s an incredibly painful experience - I’ve just been signed off work so don’t feel afraid to ask for help if you need it.

I’m sorry I’m not offering anything uplifting but I have felt like this has been such an isolating experience for me so I wanted to say you aren’t alone. I’ve found The Worst Girl Gang Ever podcast really helpful.

On TTC again, I found all the information to be incredibly unhelpful - I wanted to try again straight away. I stopped bleeding and had negative test after 5 days but midwife/GP said to wait for a period before TTC but no one seemed to be able to say why this was/what the risk of getting pregnant again before period was (seems to be mostly about being able to date the new pregnancy). But we’ve decided to wait for first period just to be on the safe side - seems to be the consensus that after an early loss trying again after first period is fine. Wishing you luck xxx