Now What?

[Shelley38]

So... I haven't really told anyone my feelings on this my family, my friends or my husband. During covid at age 36 I became pregnant with my second child. I was really happy although felt things were strange. So cut to 12 week scan they find not only a huge cyst (still to be removed) but I had miscarried. It was the most devastating day of my life. Now a year on I'm still devastated some days still can't get out of bed it's so bad. I do want to try again although with my cyst and age I'm not sure. My marriage is on the line too. My husband says he'll do ivf but not sure. So confused. Still don't feel if I'm over it all. Anyone have advise maybe counselling? I think I mostly feel sorry for my daughter and loss of sibling I come from a big family and felt I would have the same. Each day I try to be positive for what I have but its so hard xxx Any advice welcome x

My condolences for your loss.

OP, first off, 36 is still young in terms of having children. Obviously that's when fertility may begin to decline but many many people have children in their mid to late thirties. So if you want to try again, of course you can and should.

The question is, are you ready to start ttc again ? Do you feel like you need more time to process your loss ? There's no right or wrong answer, there's what's right for you.

Maybe you don't need to make that decision now. You don't need to think that far into the future right now. First take care of yourself, get the cyst taken care of. A few weeks aren't going to make a difference. When you feel in the right place you can think about ttc again.