Well, this is shite - MMC

[teaandcats]

Should be 12 weeks but a scan today showed that the embryo stopped growing around 6 weeks and no heartbeat found. I'm booked in for surgical management next week.

I don't even know why I'm posting as I have nothing to say. It's just really, really shit, but also not a surprise. Around week seven I stopped believing in this pregnancy and felt like a fraud whenever the few people I had told asked me how things were going.

I just wish I hadn't told anyone at all.

I am 2 weeks post surgery for the same thing. Went along to my scan at 13+4. Had seen the heartbeat at 9/10 weeks. Baby had passed, theyve no idea when. Its so shit, I'm so sorry you're going through it too. You're not alone ❤️ xxxx

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It's a horrible thing to experience. Have you got support around you? Please grieve and know it's okay to cry and be sad. I've experienced a miscarriage in the past at 6 weeks and also a loss at 8 weeks. 8 weeks was last week. It's awful. Please know it wasn't your fault and don't blame yourself.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I hope the people you told are able to support you through this. Be gentle with yourself, this is incredibly hard to deal with.

@Milamight I'm sorry to hear that you've experienced a similar situation. It really is so shit isn't it? How are you feeling now?

@heartbroken22 I do have support around me, thankfully. My DH and best friend have been really lovely. I'm sorry to hear that you have recently experienced a loss too - how are you feeling now?

I will be honest. The days before the surgery were awful, i was in a bad place headwise. I do feel a lot better and a lot stronger now. Its absolutely an awful feeling, i had my surgery on the 1st and surprised how much better im feeling already. Im glad you have support. I was just in shock initially. When are you able to have the surgery xx

@Milamight
I can understand how you were feeling so awful before surgery, and I'm also glad to hear that you felt a lot better afterwards. I will probably be able to get my surgery done on Tuesday (a week from today). Everything about this is just so awful xx

It is shite op you're right. There's no other word for it. Some well meaning (insensitive) person will come along and tell you that it wasn't meant to be, or that you have plenty of time to try again. Feel free to tell them to Fuck. Off.

I've been in your shoes op. Alls you can do is accept that it's shite and move on. Sorry you're having to go through this.

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby, very recent MC here too. The baby should have been 9 weeks and they stopped growing at 6 weeks two days.

I am so sorry you’re going through it, be kind to yourself and while it is hard to tell people having that support will be valuable (if you want it from them of course). Sadly you will start to realise a lot more people
who know have been through it too!

take care and again, I am so sorry 💐

@teaandcats so sorry for you loss. I completely agree, it’s so shit. I don’t have much else to say except I hope you are doing ok. Take as much time as you need to process this. I had an ERPC, it was three weeks ago.

So sorry for your loss ❤️ I had one back in Oct and it's the worst thing ever, going to the 12 week scan all excited and then hearing that actually the baby had already died weeks earlier :( take all the time you need to recover, I had about a month off work. I also recommend joining The Worst Girl Gang Ever groups on Facebook and also reading The Baby Loss Guide by Zoe Clarke-Coates (she also has a good Instagram page). I found them really helpful after my loss.

Also, it's probably the last thing on your mind right now but just to give you a bit of hope for when you're ready, I got pregnant again on my second cycle after my loss and am currently 27 weeks, it's been such an anxious time so I definitely recommend getting some support through it.

Sending hugs ❤️

Sorry to hear your news. Another one who suffered a MMC (although many years ago now)

My DM's attempt to console me was to say 'well at least you're a good carrier' . Thanks mum.

If it is any consolation, I got pregnant very quickly after the surgery - I think within three months - and went on to have a healthy baby.

I hope all goes well with you.

People say well meaning things but my word they are so off the chart, I had “well at least you know you can get pregnant” 🙄

Thinking of you 💐