Relationship after miscarriage

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I met my partner in January after he separated from his wife in November. She cheated on him for months and was taking drugs. He found out and left her. They re going through a divorce.. when I met him, I liked him straight away. Clean/respectful/ loving/ intelligent. I was pregnant after 6 weeks of dating and at first, he didn’t want the baby. Then about 6 weeks ago, he started to plan what to do when baby was here: move home/sort finances etc.. on my birthday on Monday, I lost our baby… unexpectedly. In the car, as he drove me to the hospital 💔. As ever, he was so attentive: cleaning me/making decisions as my next of kin as I needed an operation and overnight stay, changing my clothes/underwear. Everything. He got me home on Wednesday and has been to see me twice since then and did some chores around the house. When it comes to talking about the miscarriage, he will re assure me and pull up all the stats to show me that this is more common than I think. When I want to talk about us as a couple, he won’t. He clamps up and tells me there s nothing to worry about. Problem is I feel him pulling away and I desperately want him. I ve never wanted a child before meeting him ( I had some terminations before) but with him, and seeing how he was in the last 6 weeks, I know he’d be the perfect dad and I desperately want us to have children and be together. We would bicker before and always make up. He used to tell me everything but I feel now, he’s pulling away from me and it hurts like hell ! I m exhausted with grief!! Someone please help me 🥺😔🤍🕊

The baby was unplanned.. but very much wanted by me after a period of uncertainty. I was uncertain over finances but wanted to keep the baby. When it all got sorted, I was on. Then he started to slowly accept it and we had many plans for our child… I worry than as I m an ‘older’ mum to be and with the passage of time, I ve left it too late to try again with someone else and I don’t think I could ever have the connection I have with him with anyone else… I desperately want him and only him! I waited so long to find him.. I was always picky! I m a good looking woman/steady well paid job and own my house. I just miss him… to complete me emotionally. I don’t need anything else from me as I make enough money on my own. He just makes me smile, he’s so gentle and we have a lot in common !

Some men aren't good with talking about things especially miscarriage. My husband shuts down but then tries to make me happy in different ways. Please come on here if you feel like you can't talk to anyone x

Thank you so much… I just never met anyone I wanted a kid with.. I had a termination in 2018 with my ex. We didn’t plan this child and only been together since Jan. When I was pregnant, I wasn’t sure but I realised that I had strong feelings for him and then kept the baby whom I really grew to love. I was soooo looking forward to a child with him. Only him! Now, I lost our baby at 13 weeks and 5 days and I feel like I m losing him too. He won’t give me a date when we can try again and he wouldn’t even say when he ll come and see me next but has been here 3 times in a week just to check that I m ok and do some odd jobs around before my parents visit on Saturday.. I told him today that we were over and he said no! I feel like an idiot!! I keep pushing him away as if to punish myself or prove to myself that he ll go anyway but I don’t really want him to go. My boss came over today and she said that he ll eventually go if I carry on. Deep down I think I love him and I don’t want him to go. But I m worried that at 39, I may have left it late for a child… a child with him, the only man whose child I ve ever wanted to carry 🥺