3 losses in a row! Do i keep trying or have a break?

[Stargazer89]

Sorry in advance for long post!

I'm in such a state with not knowing what to do for the best.

I'm 36 and have an almost 2 year old.

We have been trying to have another little one since end of last summer. We fell pregnant within a couple of months but that ended in a MMC end of November 2021, didn't have a cycle but discovered i was pregnant again in Jan this year again it ended in an early MC, fell pregnant again before next cycle and sadly also ended in miscarriage at 10/11 weeks then choose surgical option which was 3 weeks ago! So that's 3 MC it total so we are being referred for tests. I just don't know where to go from here.

I am looking to get back in to work after being a SAHM and putting off going back to work for much longer than expected due to miscarriages. I am also due to be bridesmaid next April. I desperately want another baby (although i am so grateful to be blessed already) but I don't know if I should get a job secured first but then that would mean waiting a few months before trying again and potentially being very early in pregnancy when being a bridesmaid which would make things awkward because I wouldn't want people to know early on. I'm also worried that if i put it off will I regret it because give current history it's not being a straight forward journey so far and what if I end up missing my chance.

I dont really know what i'm asking for by posting on here but it would just be helpful to hear what people would do in my situation.

So sorry for long post x

It's hard and no one can tell you what the right move is but you.

If I was in your place I think I'd probably keep ttc, but it also depends on the tests performed and how long it'll take to hear back. If knew I'd have more information in a couple of months I might wait, if the timeline is a lot longer than that then I'd keep trying and/or look at private tests if I could afford them. I wouldn't want to think later on that I didn't have a child I wanted because I waited. But it also depends on how you're dealing with the emotional side, if you think you could cope with another loss or if you'd find it very hard.

I'd also say don't put your life on hold because you don't know how long ttc is going to take. You don't have to tell people at the wedding if you're pregnant. Just say you're taking a medication that prevents you from drinking alcohol (I got vaccinated for rabies once and they said I shouldn't drink for 9 months !!) Don't wait before looking for a job, if you go on mat leave before you have any rights for mat pay, you still won't be worse off than if you waited !

I am in the same situation having had 2 miscarriages in a row now. Can’t tell you what to do but for me I want to try again as soon as I am well enough. It’s so tough trying to conceive and dealing with the physical and emotional fallout.