Did I cause my miscarriage

[Blossomlady]

I’m heartbroken and looking for some words of experience or wisdom and knowledge. I recently had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks and can’t help but wonder what could have gone wrong. My husband and I only had sex once the month before so I know when it must have happened. I typically take great care of myself but 2 days after we had sex we were at a wedding and I was drinking alcohol that night. I never felt really drunk and probably had about 4 small cocktails in about 3-4 hours. The next morning I did have a hangover and vomited. I’m so upset and wrecked with guilt that I caused my miscarriage
Any insight would be appreciated

Oh sweet, of course you didn’t. Lots of women don’t find out they’re pregnant until much later and drink, and they have perfectly healthy babies (me included). This was just really unfortunate timing. I’m sorry for your loss but please don’t blame yourself x

You didn't cause this, I promise. So many people don't even know they're pregnant at 5 weeks and get drunk and probably worse!
Please don't blame yourself

No you did not cause your miscarriage from drinking one night or from anything else.

You aren't alone in feeling guilt. I wish we could all know the causes but we won't.

You aren't alone. X

Oh lovely, no you didn’t. Sometimes, these things happen. And I say this as a mother to a child with a cardiac condition which I beat myself up about for ages: did doing x or y or z cause it? When I’m truth it was just random. Took me a very long time to accept that.

I’m so sorry you lost your baby and I know you must want answers, but I think this maybe one time in which there is no clear answer.

You be kind to yourself xx

A really early miscarriage like this is just because there was some problem with the blastocyst or embryo that meant it wasn't going to grow properly.
The embryo doesn't even have a proper placenta 3 weeks post conception so you drinking is not going to have affected it.

No way you affected the pregnancy. At this point 2-3 days after sex the cells haven’t implanted into your uterus. It takes around 7 days for it to implant and then the placenta takes over weeks after this. Before that point it’s growing off it’s nutrient sack for 2-3 weeks.

I've had three early miscarriages and haven't drunk during any of them. Turns out I have immune issues (now on meds). It's most likely an embryo that just wasn't genetically normal, which is very common. I don't think alcohol passes through the placenta that early on. I know plenty of women who have healthy babies and got drunk during very early pregnancy, one even had took lots of cocaine (obviously not thinking she was pregnant!).

I’ve had a few miscarriages. On previous occasions I’d been more relaxed, but this last time I cut out all caffeine, alcohol, took all my vitamins (never missed a dose), and no sex to be on the safe side. Pregnancy still stopped developing at a little over six weeks.

At 4-5w the placenta hasn’t formed and baby is still reliant on the yolk sac. You having a few drinks wouldn’t have contributed to your miscarriage. Please don’t blame yourself; every time sperm meets an egg you’re rolling the dice. The majority of the time it works out, but for many early losses a chromosome or genetic issue completely beyond your control is the cause. You’re much more likely to have a successful pregnancy if you do decide to try again than another mc. Please don’t beat yourself up.