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Drinking wine during misscariage

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Ged94 · 31/05/2022 13:02

Hi all. I had it confirmed that I am having a misscariage today. It's started but hasn't fully past yet and I've been told to expect more pain/ bleeding.

My question is, can I have a glass of wine with my husband tonight or is there a chance of that stalling the misscariage? I've opted to wait and see if my body passes it naturally.

Any experience?

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Frenchyfrog · 31/05/2022 13:32

I’ve never heard of alcohol stalling a miscarriage. I’ve had wine when I’ve been going through them and I haven’t noticed any effect, helped get me through it and added some pain relief!

Snowflakes1122 · 31/05/2022 13:36

So sorry for your loss. Personally, I wouldn’t. Wine is a depressant, and I know I was not great emotionally when going through it. You know how you feel in yourself though.

eurochick · 31/05/2022 13:43

Have the wine. I've never heard any suggestion that alcohol can affect a miscarriage.

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Ged94 · 31/05/2022 13:48

Thanks for the replies. Wines never made me sad but I'm aware it's a depressant and I ussually only drink to celebrate so I will be cautious. Although a good cry might make me feel better!

was thinking it may be good for the pain too...

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GeorgiaMcGraw · 31/05/2022 15:21

I'm not aware of it having any effect. I treated myself to a good bottle of wine and lots of deli meats and soft cheeses when I had my mmc. I figured I might as well have something pleasant during such an awful time, and I wouldn't be able to have that stuff when I was trying afterwards. Sorry for your loss x

Bloodyhelldog · 31/05/2022 15:26

Drank a bottle of champagne with my husband. Celebrated that little life that wasn't.

Chin up x

MrsMoastyToasty · 31/05/2022 15:28

It will depend on whether you need medical intervention. I would err on the side of caution.

Cas112 · 31/05/2022 16:08

I had two glasses of wine when I was having a miscarriage, didn't seem to pro-long anything. Thinking of you OP

Frenchyfrog · 31/05/2022 16:58

MrsMoastyToasty · 31/05/2022 15:28

It will depend on whether you need medical intervention. I would err on the side of caution.

Just wondering why you think that would be a factor? I had medical intervention and also drank wine. If you need surgery, they will tell you in advance and then you can’t have anything at all to drink or eat for a certain amount of time before the operation.

like a PP, I also had all the good stuff I had previously had to avoid. Despite the horrible time, a bottle of wine and some gooey cheese seemed to make a bad situation a little bit better.

AnotherVice · 31/05/2022 17:02

Alcohol is a vasodilator so really bad idea. You don't want to bleed more than you already will.

Frenchyfrog · 31/05/2022 17:10

AnotherVice · 31/05/2022 17:02

Alcohol is a vasodilator so really bad idea. You don't want to bleed more than you already will.

But a miscarriage is not like a cut, it doesn’t work like that. It’s like saying don’t have a glass of wine on your period.

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Ged94 · 31/05/2022 19:19

Thanks for all the advise, I'm going to err on the side of recklessness and have a glass of wine with my husband xx

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Frenchyfrog · 31/05/2022 20:21

Ged94 · 31/05/2022 19:19

Thanks for all the advise, I'm going to err on the side of recklessness and have a glass of wine with my husband xx

Good for you, enjoy it as best you can. It’s a horrible time, and I’ve had quite a few. Anything you can do to make it more palatable do it. Oddly, the third one I had was one of nicest evenings, we had some wine, food, sat and talked to each other (rather than the general slog and just watching tv), cried a bit, laughed a bit. It’s a rollercoaster, trying to conceive, conceiving, it not working out. It made my husband and I stronger and although I wouldn’t wish it in anyone, we managed to get through it. Lots of hugs.

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Ged94 · 31/05/2022 21:21

It's shit, awful you've gone through it so many times. Good you've found a way through yj though x

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Frenchyfrog · 31/05/2022 22:05

Thanks, and I don’t want to give you false hope as I hated it when people said it to me, but I’m now having a glass of wine, with my husband, sat in front of the tv. Our toddler is sleeping and we’re tossing a coin on who is getting up with them in the morning! We made peace with the miscarriages, and I did lose hope after the last one. But, I do believe that whatever happens, talk to each other, and enjoy what you have in the moment you’re in. Sending lots of love x

Ninzkm · 31/05/2022 23:39

Hii, could really do with some advice. I'm currently going through a miscarriage (confirmed yesterday gestation 5 weeks). I've been bleeding for the past 8 days. Just wanted to know will it be painful? Is it like labour? Will it pass just like a period with clots.

custardbear · 31/05/2022 23:46

Drink wine and eat soft cheese - soon you won't be able to - good luck and don't delay, I always found it easier to fall pregnant after a miscarriage
Sorry for your loss

pompomseverywhere · 01/06/2022 07:35

Hope you had the wine. Sorry you are going through this awful thing.

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Ged94 · 01/06/2022 08:25

@Ninzkm it's probably worth starting your own thread so people with experience of an early misscariage can click on it and give advice, they might miss it here. I haven't passed mine yet so not qualified to say!

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Littlegoth · 01/06/2022 08:32

I drank more than a glass. I had 3 in total, and when I had medical management with mmc 2 and 3 I took myself off with a bottle of wine and waited for it to be over. Whatever it takes to get you through it. Sorry for your loss x

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Ged94 · 01/06/2022 09:27

Ended up splitting a nice bottle, (I probably had more) and watched top gun. Was a nice night. Planning on having lots of sushi and going to the spa/ sauna before we start trying again!

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Ged94 · 08/06/2022 09:50

In case anyone is ever looking through this thread, had a scan today which confirmed the Miscarriage completed naturally despite the wine!

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Pollywoddles · 08/06/2022 09:55

AnotherVice · 31/05/2022 17:02

Alcohol is a vasodilator so really bad idea. You don't want to bleed more than you already will.

This! I had a couple of glasses of wine when I started miscarrying and ended up in hospital the next morning because I passed so much blood that I nearly fainted. Doctor said wine when you’re miscarrying is a no no.

Sorry about your loss @Ged94 I hope you’re doing okay 🤗

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