Trying not to get angry at partner but…

[8251peacock]

…idk how to let this one go.

MMC, surgical removal 2 days ago. Feeling pretty well considering, been holding it together really well, no one really to talk to as no one knew except partner but he’s been pretty good and I’ve not really needed much.

He goes to the supermarket this evening, texts me do I want anything. I say no thank you, don’t want anything. He comes back with…sliced Gouda cheese. Which he’s bought specifically for me, he doesn’t have it.

It was my one and only pregnancy craving.

I cannot believe he could be so fucking insensitive. He’s just like, I thought you liked it 🤷‍♀️ I had literally never eaten it until a few weeks ago and I’m damn sure I never will again now.

I’m trying so hard not to completely lose it with him but oh my god. It’s hard 😩

Of all the things. Jeeeeeeeeeez 🤬

Thank you. I needed to get that out somewhere

Sorry to hear about your MC. Sounds like your partner is trying his best to do something nice for you even though he’s got it wrong! You’re going to be more sensitive just now, I remember that too, so don’t be too hard on yourself, or him.

I know, and I’m trying so hard not to. But FFS, of all the things to buy. Just cannot believe after everything it’s a packet of cheese that sets me off! Or that he would think it was in any way a good idea to buy. I just don’t have any words right now for how upset he’s made me.

I think it's probably the MC and the procedure which has upset you (however much you might think not) and this has maybe pushed you over the edge. It's ok, you're upset and it's best not to keep it in. But don't be too hard on him, it sounds like he was just trying to do something nice for you x

Be gentle on him, he's trying even if he missed the mark. Miscarriage does awful things to your hormones and emotions, it's such a hard place and honestly I think impossible for anyone who hasn't experience to truly imagine.
I'm currently irrationally pissed with a couple of my friends who have lost pets recently. They mention it a lot which I'd normally think is fair but I feel unable to freely mention my loss (I know I could technically) and so instead it winds up