Miscarriages after healthy pregnancies

[MummyEt]

Hi all, just wondering if anyone here has a similar experience to us of consecutive miscarriages following healthy pregnancies?

We've just had two back-to-back miscarriages, having previously had two healthy boys with no miscarriages before or between them. I'm at a point now of feeling like I don't trust my body to carry a baby anymore, like something must have gone wrong with it 😢

I'd be really interested to hear if anyone else has been through similar, and of course would love to hear any happy endings that followed the struggle too ☺️

Thanks mamas x

So sorry for your loss

I had Dd, then a MMC, then a chemical pregnancy, then ds
There is 2y 9m between them

It's a horrible time but absolutely there is hope

Hi Everyone, Sadly I gave birth to our beautiful baby girl, who was born sleeping at 19 weeks 1 day gestation. In the eyes of the law this is classed as a miscarriage!!! I physically gave birth to our baby, as have many other women been through the same situation. This is no miscarriage, i gave birth to our baby.. I went through everything the same as a women who has gone full term would have. I have started a petition and would be really grateful if you would take a minute to read, sign and possibly share this petition please? I believe alot of people will agree that this law is wrong. I'd be really grateful for any kind of support or response this petition gets. Thankyou. Best wishes, Racheal x
petition.parliament.uk/petitions/615852

2 very early mc's between 2 healthy pregnancies. Didn't happen again after that, I was a bit apprehensive for dc3.

@MummyEt Yes! This has just happened to me...I have a perfectly healthy 4 and 2 year old. I have had 2 recurrent MMC in the space of 6 months. One at 9 weeks, the last one ( I found out last week) at 7 weeks. The consultant wasn't particularly helpful. Said my age probably played a part but was probably just 'bad luck'...I want answers. I feel like if we try again it's Russian roulette xx

I had 3 children then a mmc then another child. Fingers crossed next time goes well for you.

I'm so so sorry for what you've been through, my heart honestly breaks for you. Just going to the petition page now. Sending you so much love and prayers at this awful time xxx

Thank you so much for your reply, that's really encouraging to hear. I'm so sorry you had to go through two losses and really glad you had your rainbow after xxx

Thank you so much for your reply - I'm so sorry for the loss you went through and glad you had your rainbow after. It's really helpful to hear there's still hope xxx

Thank you so much. And that's really encouraging to hear there's hope after loss. I'm so sorry for the loss you went through, and really happy you had your rainbow after xxx

I had ds then 3 miscarriages then took 150mg aspirin per day when I next got pregnant (had a recurrent miscarriage appointment line up but the pandemic cancelled that and I got pregnant while trying to work out what to do next!) and dd is now asleep upstairs. I’m not saying it works for everyone and dd could have just been luck but I can’t help but think the aspirin did have an effect.

I'm so so sorry for what you've been through over the last 6 months. It's just so traumatic isn't it, as well as all the physical exhaustion. I'm really struggling to get through the shock of the second loss. I feel like there must be a reason for it too (I was wondering about scarring from the previous birth), but then reading the replies from the ladies here who've had similar experiences and gone on to have healthy pregnancies is giving me hope.
Praying that we both have our rainbows after this if we do try again xxx

That's really interesting, thank you so much. I've been told I'd be put on progesterone next time, but I'd not heard about aspirin so that's really useful to know & be able to ask about. I'm so sorry you went through 3 losses, that must have been such a horrible time. It's lovely to hear your rainbow dd arrived safely xxx

@MummyEt so traumatic! When was your last loss if u don't mind me asking? I'm 39 and feel time is very much running out. We're away at the moment (which is helping slightly with having the change of scenery) I'm trying not to obsess over things but find my thoughts just take over. I have my first baby's due date coming up v soon which is soo hard. I blame myself for trying for a 3rd..feel like I had my luck with the last 2 and have used it up. I'm wanting to go private now for tests but I don't know what that'll really help me with tbh as I think it was most likely an issue with chromosomes x

It's just awful isn't it, and having baby's due date coming up must be so hard to face. Sending you lots of love for then, and hoping your time away is helping a little bit.

Our last loss was at around 9 weeks and I'm nearly 33. I'm coming round to thinking it must have been chromosome issues too, especially as my ultrasound after the miscarriage didn't show any obvious scarring. I had previously been thinking maybe I had damage from ds2's problematic birth, especially as the early scan for this most recent pregnancy had shown a heterogeneous womb lining and some cystic spaces, but that was all normal again after the miscarriage so must have been related to that pregnancy. But it's just so hard to think that could happen twice in a row after two healthy pregnancies with no issues. I'm feeling so drained from all the time being pregnant and then the losses, but think we may try one more time and then see whether we want to face the tests after that xxx

@MummyEt I had my 2 healthy pregnancies at 34 and 36...I just wish I wasn't so ancient. I'm blaming me and my crappy eggs at the moment. I don't smoke, I do like a glass of wine and could probably do with improving my diet really...considering getting the book it starts with the egg. I think my last pregnancy really helped me get over the first miscarriage. I don't know how many more losses I could handle...have also been looking at create fertility. Mentioned IVF to DH and in particular testing the embryo for chromosomal issues but he didn't seem too keen especially as we wouldn't get any funding at all x

I had two boys, then a m/c, then my 3rd son, then 3 m/c (two very early, around 5 weeks, 1 later) then my daughter.

My GP recommended I take a hefty vitamin D supplement (colecalciferol) before my last try. So I did, and DD stuck!

@DrRuthGalloway that's interesting re the vit d will look into that. Did your GP say why in particular it helps? X

Just that in her experience a lot of women who had several miscarriages had low vit D.
She is retired now, a while back, so she had a lot of experience!

It worked for a friend of mine too... had two babies after secondary infertility once she upped her vit D significantly.

@DrRuthGalloway ahh ok thank you. Can you remember which strength ones you went for? X

It was a while back, sorry. I do know I had a weekly capsule. I expect daily ones would be just as good.

I'm almost the same age as you and had this exactly. I had two children and then two miscarriages (6 weeks and 9weeks) and am now cuddling my 8week old. She was born exactly one year from when I found out about my second miscarriage. After my second miscarriage I started taking aspirin 75mg a day. I can't say if it helped or just coincidence but it all worked out well.
Good luck and I hope it works out for you.

I'm so sorry for what you went through. I can't imagine how hard that must have been, and still is I'm sure.

Could you explain what exactly would happen if the law was changed and at what gestation would this apply? I'm really interested to understand more.

@DrRuthGalloway no worries! I'll look into it @whosaidtha thanks, I've heard aspirin is often recommended. How did u both feel trying again after more than one MC? X

OP I said to dh after 2 m/c in a row (after ds3 had been born) that maybe we could give it 3 more months and then count our blessings with our gorgeous living children. Month 1 of the 3 I got pregnant, and then lost it in month 2. I got pregnant with dd in the last month I was ever prepared to try for a baby.

I wanted to end my pregnancy journey with a successful pregnancy and had always wanted 4 kids. Luckily I always got pregnant easily....it was staying pregnant that was the issue!

@calimc83 My mindset was very much that if I had a third miscarriage then I would at least get some investigations into the reason. My trust won't do anything until 3. I also took the aspirin after doing my own research because I felt like I was being proactive. It was a very worrying time because I had seen baby's heartbeats in my previous pregnancies and still gone on to miscarry so it was worrying.
Fingers crossed for everyone.