Recurrent miscarriage - are you ever the same?

[Tuesdaytwosday]

Hi everyone:

I have had three miscarriages in a row and I decided I don't ever want to be pregnant again. I accept this and have a bit of a plan of my life without a child of my own. My last mc was in Feb.

I feel I am not who I was. Outwardly I seem fine and I have days where I feel happy, but I do feel a 50% version of who I was. I lack patience, empathy and interest in people, and most of the time have to fake it.

Has anyone else experienced this? Does it eventually ease up?

Thank you,

Firstly op, February was 5 minutes ago and you've had no time at all to process what has happened. Secondly, I am in the same position as you and have decided after multiple miscarriages that I don't want to be pregnant again because each loss took away part of me that I don't think I'll get back and I couldn't cope with more loss. I'm pleased to read that you're planning a life without children and I sincerely hope it's as fun and exciting as you want it to be but it will take more time for you to come to terms with your grief and loss. I won't ask you to consider your other options for having kids because it's not want I wanted to hear when I had my miscarriages but you will feel more whole again after more time passes. My thoughts are with you 💓

So sorry you've had three miscarriages in a row. That takes enormous toll on your body and mind. Give it time and you will get your 50% you back eventually. Of course you're going to have to fake it but I think that faking it can do us good as it eventually leads to natural behaviour. Just so long as the faking isn't making you feel exhausted. I'd try and get out for walks if you can? To help your mental health.
Has anyone identified possible causes for your miscarriages? I was told that three recurrent is not necessarily a cause for concern. I completely understand your fears about going ahead with a fourth pregnancy. Any plans you make now can obviously be changed further down the line so don't feel like you have to map out your entire life now. February is still very recent xx