PCOS miscarriage

[AmyA29]

Hi,
I dont know if I am looking for advice, reassurance or to actually just get things off my chest.
I was diagnosed with PCOS as a teenager and told I wouldn't be given treatment. In my head I always thought this meant children would not be on the cards for me.
Fast forward to 32 and to my complete surprise (6 pregnamcy tests later) and secret excitement I found out I was pregnant to my amazing partner. We paid for a private scan at 8 weeks as I was terrified I was wrong or that the pregnancy would be ectopic but everything looked fine.
Things progressed well and I was booked in for my NHS scan for next week when I should have been 13 weeks. Two days ago I had some very slight spotting, after a trip to EPAU they diagnosed a MMC.
Both myself and partner are devastated and both blaming ourselves. I am now spending my day googling whilst I wait for the miscarriage to actually occur. This is only reinforcing the self blame as seeing all the stats on PCOS increasing the risk of miscarriage.
This has made me realise that I want a baby more than anything in the world and am terrified that I may never get pregnant again or may miscarry ad I'm not sure I could go through this again. My partner is not ready to discuss trying again (he has a child from previous relationship) but I need to know that it is still on the table as I cannot live without this dream. I now cannot imagine life without a child and am terrified this is now my reality...can I really get a second miracle pregnancy?

How irregular or regular are your cycles @AmyA29 ? PCOS makes it difficult to get pregnant cause of irregular ovulation. If you don't ovulate frequently, there are medication options if you haven't conceived again after a year. Also, whilst PCOS increases the risk of miscarriage, the majority of pregnancies in women with PCOS will be fine.

I've been in your shoes - I had the exact same situation, a healthy scan at 11 weeks, MMC at 13 weeks. I had surgery. Happy to give you any info if you need anything.

Sorry to hear about your loss. I have had 3 miscarriages now and it's only after having private testing I found out one of my ovaries is slightly polycystic. I have not been put on medication for it but have been told I could take myo inositol to help balance my hormones and reduce suspected insulin resistance. Do you take any medication to help treat your PCOS? If not maybe you could speak about this with your GP?

My private consultant told me that PCOS affects everyone differently and it will not cause miscarriage for some but could contribute to miscarriage in others.

Since taking myo inositol I have noticed my periods have become like clockwork. I have also altered my diet to cut out a lot of carbs and try to eat a more Mediterranean diet. My periods were never bad but ranged from 28-34 days. Now they seem to be 30 days on the dot every month and last 3-4 days rather than 5-6. Just waiting to see if we get another BFP to see if the myo inositol and dietary changes will make a difference.

Hope you are ok and are getting lots of care and support x