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Does having miscarriage mean you can not carry a girl

50 replies

Coco9001 · 30/04/2022 13:52

This may be a strange post maybe a subject we don’t like to discuss out loud but I just really need to know if there are any success stories to prove this theory wrong ….

someone once told me that if you had a miscarriage it meant you couldn’t carry that particular sex so if you already had a baby boy and then have a miscarry, you would only conceive boys as you body cannot carry a baby girl….

I used to think that’s silly how could people say that however I have a lot people around me that have had miscarriages and only have either all boys or all girls not one of each sex after having a miscarriage!

i just wondered if there was anyone that could share their story where they have had a baby boy for example and then had a miscarriage but gone on to have a girl after ? Or the other way round

OP posts:
Callimanco · 30/04/2022 13:55

I had 2 boys, a miscarriage, another boy, another miscarriage then a girl.

BundtCake · 30/04/2022 13:55

Don’t be silly.

Staffy1 · 30/04/2022 13:55

There are many reasons for miscarriage, I have never heard of that theory. A friend has had a girl, then a miscarriage, then a boy.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 30/04/2022 13:55

Not in my case.... had 2 boys then 3 miscarriages, followed by a girl

starrynight21 · 30/04/2022 13:56

I don't know where this idea has come from - every pregnancy is 50/50 chance of having a girl or boy. Having a miscarriage doesn't affect that at all. I had four miscarriages and then had a girl and then a boy.

AlisonDonut · 30/04/2022 13:56

No of course it doesn't.

Clymene · 30/04/2022 13:57

No

AnyFucker · 30/04/2022 13:57

I had two miscarriages. Then a girl, then a boy.

I think it is an old wives tale you are thinking of.

Good luck if you are ttc

Ottercave · 30/04/2022 13:57

Girl, miscarriage, girl, girl, boy, boy so no it doesn’t.

withacherryonthetop · 30/04/2022 13:58

No. My sister had a miscarriage. She now has 2 girls and pregnant with boy

Tdcp · 30/04/2022 13:59

I miscarried a girl and then had a girl..

UpToMyElbowsInDiapers · 30/04/2022 13:59

Given how extremely common miscarriages unfortunately are, and how relatively common mixed-sex families are, I don’t think that makes a lot of sense. Certainly anecdotally, I’m aware of at least one friend who has had 2 miscarriages, a girl and a boy. My DGM also had a miscarriage and two stillbirths, and had a boy and two girls.

5zeds · 30/04/2022 14:00

definitely not true for me.

Fairyfalls · 30/04/2022 14:08

Four miscarriages followed by three boys. I often think maybe I couldn't carry a girl BUT absolutely no scientific evidence to back up my thoughts.

custardbear · 30/04/2022 14:15

No, I've had many miscarriages and I had a girl then a boy (miscarriages before any children and inbetween too) ... don't listen to people they talk nonsense

WhereIsMyBrain · 30/04/2022 14:19

I had miscarriage, boy, miscarriage, girl.

hanahsaunt · 30/04/2022 14:20

No. Two boys followed by two miscarriages followed by #3 boy and only girl.

ChloeHel · 30/04/2022 14:22

No definitely not. My poor SIL had 4 miscarriages, then had a beautiful girl, followed by another 3 miscarriages then a boy. But we did later find out she was rhesus negative which is why she kept having miscarriages.

AnneLovesGilbert · 30/04/2022 14:23

Some men only make girls, pretty sure that’s a thing.

I had 5 mcs, 2 mmcs which I had surgery for and both were girls when tested. Then I had a girl.

I was the problem, not the babies. So it worked when they fixed me and the sex of the baby was irrelevant.

popcorndiva · 30/04/2022 14:23

My mum miscarried both boys she had three girls in the end. But could just be coincidence

BunniesGonnaHop · 30/04/2022 14:25

There's surely no science to that? I mean, I guess you could theoretically carry a gene that would affect, say, males, and then perhaps wouldn't be able to carry male pregnancies to term, but that would be the genetics of the parents/ baby, not anything to do with previous miscarriages.

Anecdotally, I had my older children, then a miscarriage, then both a boy and a girl after the miscarriage, so there's that.

JenniferBarkley · 30/04/2022 14:25

It's an old wives tale - I have two girls with a miscarriage I'm the middle, so back in the day some would have believed I "can't carry boys" but there's no truth to it. Similarly, my mum also had one miscarriage and two daughters so it would have been thought "in our family we can't carry boys". It's not true though.

My best friend has had "a few" (I suspect many more than that) miscarriages but has a son and a daughter and is due a third this summer.

RosesAndHellebores · 30/04/2022 14:28

I have heard the saying "only a real man can father a girl" but probably a lot of tosh.

Like others op: miscarriage (late boy), miscarriage (7 weeks), DS, (MMC), 27 week birth DS2 didn't survive, miscarriage (v v early 5 weeks), DD. I expected DD to be a boy because by then I imagined I could only do boys. To be fair all I wanted was another baby!

Pollywoddles · 30/04/2022 14:29

Rubbish, I’ve miscarried one girl and one boy that I know of and I’ve successfully carried a girl.

Trinxsy · 30/04/2022 14:30

I already have a son, had a miscarriage and I'm now 30 weeks with twin girls!