Health Anxiety and tenseness after miscarriages

[Mumtum14]

Hi there. I just wondered if anyone feels anxiety about their health in general after miscarriage?

my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I then got pregnant 5 months later and had my daughter. Started trying again when she was just over 1, and fell pregnant straight away, only to miscarry again. Then I got pregnant the following month and sadly miscarried again.

Since then I’ve been so sad and developed weird health anxiety. I worry about developing cancer, my heart rate, moles, you name it.

ive been trying again for three months and nothing yet. I just wonder if I’m ever going to feel happy like I used to 😪anyone else feel the same at all? X

Hey, I'm sorry for what you are experiencing and for your losses. I have been there with both sadly. Health anxiety is awful, I recommend CBT and following that therapy. Therapy has been amazing for keeping me grounded and also for my pregnancy losses. It does get better in time but I really think You should get some help because you learn the tools to fight it when it tries to pipe up again.

We had 3 losses last year. I have a 2 year old. First time trying we fell with him. I never expected to go through what we have been through. Still trying but it's hard not to lose hope at times.

Thank you @ladybuggoldfinch ladybuggoldfinch For your kind words. I’m so sorry for your losses. Some days I feel pretty good and have no worries, other days I’m obsessed with my health. It’s quite tiring. I feel like I never had this before the miscarriages, feel like the pain of the miscarriages brought it on in some way.

thank you, I’ve just started standard therapy, looking forward to getting better. Sometimes I worry that being anxious about my health is stopping me getting pregnant but I guess it’s hard to tell.

you will get pregnant again, never loose hope. You’ve been pregnant four times, your body can do this. Have faith xx

@Mumtum14 so sorry to hear about your losses. Great that you have reached out for support through counselling.

I had my first onset of health related anxiety in 2020 and had a 12 week course of CBT which I found really helpful. Would highly recommend and I think it's helped me through the 3 pregnancies and subsequent miscarriages I've had so far. I'm also planning to get specific miscarriage counselling this time round as I feel the CBT tools help with my anxiety but not so much with processing the losses.

All the best ❤️

@cocoforbes Thank you so much for your kind words and I’m sorry for your losses.

that is so interesting re CBT. I’ve been recommended it by a few people and it sounds like something I should look into.

the standard counselling is great to get out the sadness of miscarriage, massive good luck to you.

it’s so comforting to know I’m not the only one. It’s been 5 months now, was hoping I would be over it but I guess it’s a journey isn’t it! X