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Medical or surgical termination help

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Grace198 · 28/04/2022 20:13

I am really hoping someone may be able to share their experience or offer advice...
I am 14 weeks pregnant, my recent scan showed severe hydrops (fluid on organs) and I was told the baby would not survive birth and I would most likely miscarry in the next few weeks. We are currently waiting on the CVS test result but regardless of the diagnosis, I am facing the choice of waiting for a spontaneous miscarriage or opting for a medical or surgical termination. I would much rather plan for a termination as the idea of having a late miscarriage or even still birth terrifies me and I couldn't bare waiting for the worst.
My preference would be for a surgical procedure but the earliest appointment I can get is 3 weeks away. I may miscarry before then and if not, I find it really traumatic to think that the baby would be even more developed.
Alternatively I could be induced with a medical termination next week but I have a family member who went through this and found it extremely traumatic, not just to see the baby but to be in a delivery ward surrounded by newborns and labouring mums.
Has anyone been in a similar situation or had experience of either of these options? This is a planned and much wanted pregnancy but I would prefer to terminate as soon as possible... It's my second pregnancy and I have the weekly milestones swimming around my head and as each week passes, I know I will find it more and more upsetting.
Please forgive me if this post has upset anyone, or triggered unhappy memories. I hope I've posted it in an appropriate place.

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cocoforbes · 29/04/2022 10:42

Hi @Grace198 so sorry you are going through this. I'm afraid I don't have much advice to give as I am also considering my miscarriage option right now but wanted to offer a handhold ❤️

3 weeks is a long time to wait and can totally understand that that would be traumatic. Is the only option for you to have the medical management in hospital or might they let you do it at home?

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