6 weeks when should be 7 and no heartbeat - experiences of what's next?

[cocoforbes]

Hi there,

Just had a 7 week scan today and our baby was measuring 6 weeks with no heartbeat. I am very sure I have dates right as I was tracking bbt and using a CBFM. I know they may have implanted late potentially but preparing for the worst. We have another scan booked for two weeks.

I'd love to hear from ladies who have been through something similar. I'm not sure if I should expect to bleed before my next scan or not and if so when did it happen for you? Or did you not bleed initially and opted for medical or surgical managent? How long can it take if you just let it happen?

Thanks in advance ❤️

I hope your scan in two weeks goes well.

I had a private scan at 8.5 weeks and it measured at 6w1d with no hb. I was sure of the dates due to cm window and when we dtd. Then had a scan at epu 4 days later who said the same. Due to the Easter period I had the second scan booked in 14 days later for them to confirm mmc- they wouldn’t accept the first private scan. If your first scan is private try to get seen by epu.

While waiting for the second delayed scan (caught covid) I naturally started bleeding 14 days after that original private scan ( ~31 days after the 6w1d point) and three days after that I passed most of it over 2-3hrs. With a few additional smaller sessions a few days after that. The bleeding is still ongoing but reduced and I’m now on two weeks since the bleeding started.

@Blue2020 so sorry for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing your experience ❤️

@cocoforbes Thankyou, and I’m sorry you are having to go through this.

Hi @cocoforbes, so sorry to read this. I had an 8 week scan two weeks ago and found out I'd had a MMC at 6 weeks; I had to wait another week for a second to make sure nothing had changed, which it sadly hadn't.

I spoke to the team and opted for surgical management over waiting [due to me being in fertility treatment and to speed things along] and didn't like the thought of the medical management.
The surgical management wasn't bad at all, although I felt incredibly sad and upset the whole time whilst in hospital, which was for around 4 hours in total.
Advice from the EPU team, who I was referred to was that you can wait for your body to realise, and it will happen, it can just take varying times for each person.
Do what you feel best with, I found the fertility and EPU team to be really helpful and clear with the options.
I am so sorry.

It is tough and I've felt incredibly low and lonely as only my partner and I knew we were expecting! I'm sure it will get easier though, for now its a bit of heartbreak.
Good luck❤

@VickiG85 thank you so much for sharing your story and so sorry for your loss ❤️

It is so hard, this is my 3rd but the others were earlier and were just like a heavy period so I really appreciate hearing about your experiences.

We have told very close family and friends for each and it's really tough letting them know the bad news but also found it useful for them to know as they understand if we have to cancel plans etc.

We really thought this was our time. I'm looking into counselling as I found this pregnancy really tough emotionally even before the sad news yesterday and I want to have the strength to continue trying for our rainbow 🌈