Hi there, first time poster here.
- long story short, I’m looking for feedback on a commemorative process I have designed following my recent loss.
I’ve recently gone through an early pregnancy loss (7 weeks). And, having turned a blind eye to a surgical termination I underwent 12 years ago when I was 20, Mother to a toddler and much less of an overthinker; I felt unable to walk away from the hospital leaving the little jelly bean behind.
I took my baby home and set about searching for options we could manage independently. I didn’t feel great thinking of the communal cremation offered by the hospital, which was around 30 miles away from our town and I just felt a little disconnected from it all.
Anyway, through much trawling, it transpires there are limited options for babies this tiny. Private cremation can be costly and there is a substantial chance of little to no ashes being returned. I really wanted to have some of the baby’s ashes encased in resin and added to a bead for me and my partner so I was looking for an option that wasn’t a burial.
I came up against a brick wall, I felt so upset that for something as heartbreaking yet exceptionally common as a pregnancy loss, the options were so limited. I reached out to a local placenta encapsulation specialist to learn more about their process, and after much research and deliberation. I bought some equipment and I treated my baby at home. I then reached out to another local ashes jeweller and we worked together to make a beautiful bead for myself and my partner containing our baby.
I have now decided to look into whether this could be a viable and affordable service for those who have recently experienced incomplete pregnancies. I was able to add in some dried shamrock petals (partners favourite) and could personalise this service further with dried flowers, sand grains, cleansing herbs/spices etc. I was hoping for some feedback from you lovely Mums on whether it seems like a good idea? I am setting up a gateway meeting to look at relevant insurance policies etc.