First miscarriage and needing advise

[Hattiecats]

I don’t even know where to start.. I’m 26 and have suffered with irregular periods for some time now and as a result was referred for blood tests and ultra sound scan for PCOS. Anyway, last Sunday (17th) I had a positive pregnancy test after having sore breasts and no period for 12 weeks. I’d have period like cramps for about a week before finding out. I had some slight spotting this weekend (22/23rd) and an ultrasound on 22nd relating to PCOS - no concerns re ovaries which is positive but they were unable to confirm sign of pregnant which is very odd as I guessed I would be around 6 weeks pregnant. The nurse said a) I was earlier than 4 weeks b) having a miscarriage given the bleeding or c) ectopic pregnancy. Fast forward to today and I’ve been bleeding very heavy and having had a blood test they confirmed I only had 16HCG picked up so most likely had a miscarriage.

I feel devastated, I’m only 26 but can’t help but worry about the future, will this happen again, is something wrong with me? The pregnancy wasn’t planned but I feel like I want a baby now I’ve been open to the idea and felt so happy since finding out. I don’t know whether to try again and really worried that I won’t get any support ie any aspirin or progesterone treatment given this is the first miscarriage.

Any advice or comments are really appreciated.

Most women go on to have a perfectly normal pregnancy after a miscarriage. It is a worry for you, that is fully understandable. However, it is likely the baby you lost had genetic issues which made it not viable. This is obviously sad but also means it is not likely to be anything to do with your ability to carry a pregnancy.

I’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It’s such a devastating time when you find out. I’ve had 3 in a row but have been told that this is incredibly rare. The chances are you’ll go on to be able to have children. I’ve heard stories about people who have had even more than me and miraculously gone on to have several children. You’re not alone on here - we all know what it’s like and are here to support you! I’m pregnant again now and haven’t lost hope. Xx