Missed Miscarriage at 16 weeks- advice please

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Hi, I am looking for some advice please,

I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks- the 12 weeks scan was fine, we found out our baby had died at 14 weeks at the gender scan.

I was devastated but more traumatised about what happened after- having to go into hospital to have medical management, passing the baby into a bed pan, the placenta retaining- which the Dr tried to pull out manually! Then having to go to have surgery for a d and c . After this I had a massive UTI infection so was ill for a while.

Anyway my husband keeps mentioning ttc again when that is the last thing on my mind, when I got upset about it , he said “don’t get emotional about it” and also said my friends wife had three miscarriages so you shouldn’t be too bad after one?

We are now not talking as I said I did not want to a baby as I am still grieving and the thought of going through it all again makes me feel sick.

What can I do? I have a appointment with my consultant in a few months time to discuss what the post mortem found out about why it happens.

Please help

I’m really sorry to hear what you have went through, I know how you feel as I’ve went through the same, it’s heartbreaking. I’ve sent you a pm x

I am
So sorry for your loss and what you have been through. It has been a horrible ordeal for you and I'd be surprised if you weren't feeling "emotional" as your husband put it.

Perhaps explaining to him that you need to take some time to feel mentally well before going through the physical and emotional toll of another pregnancy might help... sometimes men just don't get this situation as they are physically detached from the whole situation...

Regardless of his feelings, getting pregnant after loss is an anxious and trying time so only do it when you feel ready!

Take care x