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TTC # 1 having suffered 2 previous miscarriages

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kd73 · 05/01/2008 09:46

I am 34 and just suffered a second miscarriage, I would be really grateful for any stories with hope.

Thank you.

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smilesattheweekend · 07/01/2008 12:19

Hi KD

I had 2 mc then DS, I have just had another 2 mc. We tried for 6 years and were about to start fertility treatment when I got PG with DS 1 , I bled alot with that pg and thought all the way through that I was going to lose him. He is a lovely boy and I know what you mean about being envious of people with children. I got myself all hung up on getting pg and it took over my life. When we were told we were going to have IVF I forgot about it for a while and gave myself a break for a few months until the appointment date. I think giving myself a break mentally helped physically - yes, I know it sounds bonkers but thats how it worked for us. I had a further mc last july and one in october but I am not going to let it put me off. Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up about the mcs, I know it is hard to do. I can't tell you things will happen but you have as much chance as any of us!!!

Take care

hugs to you

Smiles

RoseyB · 07/01/2008 12:37

Hello, I'm in the middle of my second miscarriage. It started on our way back from Cornwall after a busy Christmas and New Year. As with the first I was looking forward to my first scan but no... the blood came instead. So sad. I have a 19 mnth old boy who I love but oh boy do I want another. I'm 40 and feel 30, except now of course when I feel wrung out.

belgo · 07/01/2008 13:47

RoseyB- I'm so sorry, it's very hard. Of course you love your ds but the longing for another child is just so strong, and the sense of loss after m/c is huge.

kd73 - I hope you are ok.

Jackstini · 09/01/2008 09:18

KD - just wanted to say thinking of you for Friday's scan. I know it is likely to be a bad day but will hopefully at least confirm that all is over and you don't need any intervention. Don't forget, there is always hope for next time (((hugs)))

kd73 · 11/01/2008 19:05

Thanks for all your kind messages.

As suspected, we have had a 2nd miscarriage.

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Lcy · 11/01/2008 20:04

Thinking of you x

cece · 12/01/2008 16:14

KD

So sorry you have had to go through this.

deenymcqueenygoreandguts · 12/01/2008 16:36

hi,
I stopped the contraceptive injection an 2 years later still had not concieved.
we planned to try for children as soon as we married.
then suddenly i became pregnant.
we were absolutely overjoyed, on top of the world.
at 6 weeks i was at work, had a pain then began bleeding.
i lost that baby over the next few days.

about 2 months later, we decided to try again.
i became pregnant after about 3 months.
had a small bleed at 7 weeks, went for scaan, no baby, just pregnancy sac.
waited it out, miscarried at 13 weeks.

i believed there and then (1st July) as i lay in a hospital bed covered in blood that i would never ever have children.
i believed that we would be one of those poor couples who would make lovely parents but who would never ever have children.
I was convinced, you could have not disuaded me from this opinion.
Then in Otober i began to feel a bit "funny".
We went shopping and while out, i said to dh, "lets buy a test".
got home did it.....BFP.
we hugged then said no more about it.
we refused to let it into our minds, refused to be happy.

Nothing happened.
i felt sicker and sicker and sicker.
boobs killing me,
couldnt keep awake.
went to Drs.
early scan.....12 weeks.
there he was.....heart beating away...we had never seen this.

And now he is 4, started school in September and is the beat in our hearts.

We want to try again, but i am convinced that we wont be "allowed" any more, we are lucky to have our boy.

You NEVER know whta is round the corner for you.
If i had not lost my previous 2 babies, i would not now have our boy.
keep strong.
hth.x

wildwind · 13/01/2008 10:57

Dear kd73,

So sorry you have to go through this. my thoughts are with you.

My experience is that physically things can get back to normal very quickly. Even after heavy blood loss and D&C at 16th week got back to normal ok. Gym 2 weeks after.

Second m/c was at 10 weeks and could not believe it.

Especially since my smoking and obese colleagues managed to have children. I was a deep green envious hormonal monster for a while. Any mum with bump wanted to make me scream. Didn't help that my job entails advising young mothers...

I am 37, 38 in April and dare not hope currently.

BUT!!!!!! As long as there is nothing physically wrong we will try until it gets unsafe and we feel risks are too high re Downs and othe problems.

Holding on to the good tings can help immensely. when the big dark cloud fell over me - I thoughtof how lucky I am to have a supporting partner, and a lovely home. It can be so hard, I know...

Considering now getting a dog - maybe having more enjoyment in life will help staying calm and get us there - if not - we have to see what we do.

A big hug

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