Had ERPC today following 3rd miscarriage. I'm glad that we might now get some answers but feel a little alone.
DH and I haven't told anyone, largely because a close relative is about to have a baby and we don't want rain on their parade or cause them worry right now. We would also hate to cause elderly DP to be anxious for us when they have troubles of their own.
I also fear that if we tell other less close relatives or friends we might become a source of gossip. We've been trying for DC2 for 3 years now, and we're not getting any younger. I would hate for people to be sneering about me saying I left it too late. In reality we had no family help at all with DC1 (not because DP were unwilling but because they were unable) and no financial help to buy a home, so couldn't really contemplate another DC until we'd got on the ladder and things were starting to get easier with DC1.
Finally, I haven't told work. Largely I think because of embarrassment. This is the 2nd time I've had a MMC in a year. I also work in a very small team where my colleagues would have to shoulder a much bigger workload, if I went off sick. I'm not sure that my team really understood when I told them last time, although they made the right noises. I'm also concerned (very unreasonably!) that I might come across as being a bit chaotic.
Not really sure what I wanted to achieve by this post but it's felt quite cathartic! I think it's also fair to say that my experience shows that society still has a long way to go in the way miscarriage is treated.