Third miscarriage in a row - handhold

[Februarybluee]

Hi everyone.

As the title says I'm currently experiencing my third miscarriage in a row. I would just like a handhold really and to talk.

My last was end of November. That was at 6 weeks. I made it to 8 weeks this time, the furthest I have ever got and I really thought everything was going to be ok this time.

I feel sad but not as shook up as last time I feel like I'm 'used to it' as sad as that sounds. Although maybe I am a bit numb at the moment.

It is like the start of a period now, with period like cramps. It was light earlier and it the community midwife said to go to a&e if the bleeding got worse and I had cramps but don't see the point tonight as I'm not feeling unwell and I know if I seem physically ok they'll probably just refer me to EPU (we can't self refer to EPU here) which is what they did last time. I will ring community midwife tomorrow and I expect they'll refer me to EPU so same outcome.

I don't know what this will mean for the future. I feel like I don't want to try again. I also feel bad for putting my partner through this pain.

I am waffling now but it's nice to get it out!

Just a reply so you don't feel alone OP.
3rd misscarriage for me too potentially at the moment. Similarly, I'm not as emotional as I was expecting it to occur again.

After 3, the hospital can investigate so may find a cause that could be treated easily.

No other words of advice or wisdom, just want you to know people are listening.

@Pickingyournoseattrafficlights thank you so much for your reply. I'm so sorry to hear that and sending you love 🧡.

Thank you re the tests. I may try to go private to speed things up... will see.

I hope all works out for you.

Love your name btw, it made me smile!

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this. It's truly shit.

Have they said they are going to do testing? With my 3rd loss they advised to keep the baby and take it into the hospital for genetic testing which helped. I'm sorry to bring this up but I wanted to say rather than you find out this is a possibility when it's too late.

I'm so sorry, it's such an awful place to be . I don't know if it helps at all - maybe not and I'm sorry if not - but that was exactly the position I was in in June 2017. Three miscarriages, two at six weeks and then one at eight. When I got pregnant again a few months later I had no hope at all and really just assumed it would go the same way. He's now a gorgeous, delightful little boy who'll turn 4 later this year.

I am currently cuddling my baby who arrived after 3 miscarriages, one in 2017, one in 2018 and one in 2019. All mine were early ish losses. I never had any investigations after my losses but I didn't push for them. I had given up hope but our baby arrived safe and well last year.

for you. I hope it all works out.

I'm so sorry @Februarybluee it's a horrible place to be and I know exactly how you feel.

If you do decide to go private I recommend Professor Regan at St Mary's hospital in London. I turned 40 just after my second mc in a row so we decided not to wait for the NHS (which was a ridiculous wait in our area). I had a third mc waiting for all the tests to be completed because I was so impatient and refused to wait the three months but it turned out to be an easy-ish fix... a septate uterus and a blood issue. I'm now 30 weeks and got pregnant again two months later.

I liked Prof Regan because she was no-nonsense and practical and wouldn't recommend tests and treatment that were pointless or a waste of money.

Sending

I also had three miscarriages. Had investigations (nhs), they couldn’t say whether these issues were the cause as they were all quite minor. We decided that ivf would be be right for us. I’m now looking at my 9 month old asleep. There is hope and I admit when I gave up trying that was the time I got pregnant and it stuck. You can only do why is right for you, luckily I was in a place where we both so supportive and even though we went through so much heartache, we knew that if children didn’t come then we would both be ok. I wish you al the best and please take some time to work out what is right for you.

[Just wanted to specify a trigger warning r.e. details of miscarriage]

Thank you everyone for your kind replies.

I rang the midwife today and she has referred me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. We have a private hospital near us too so may try them also.

I barely get period pains but I've had what I can described as mild contractions which I was surprised by! I have passed a big clot that looks like it could have been the sac so I'm hoping now that the pains will ease up a bit later on.

I’m sorry to hear that you are going through your third miscarriage. I have been in the same position. I had three back to back miscarriages since August 2020. I am now sitting here with my two week old little girl.

I pushed for testing after my second loss due to my age (39) but it didn’t show anything. However, I was offered Progesterone suppositories if I was to fall pregnant again. As soon as I got my next positive test I started taking the progesterone and took it for the first 13/14 weeks. I was also offered early scans which I got every three weeks.

It’s so so hard, and it took its toll on my mental health, but please don’t give up hope. I really do hope it works out for you

I am so sorry for all your losses but please do not give up hope x

Sending you love hugs and strength x

@BallyAllyBuzzyBee

I’m sorry to hear that you are going through your third miscarriage. I have been in the same position. I had three back to back miscarriages since August 2020. I am now sitting here with my two week old little girl.

I pushed for testing after my second loss due to my age (39) but it didn’t show anything. However, I was offered Progesterone suppositories if I was to fall pregnant again. As soon as I got my next positive test I started taking the progesterone and took it for the first 13/14 weeks. I was also offered early scans which I got every three weeks.

It’s so so hard, and it took its toll on my mental health, but please don’t give up hope. I really do hope it works out for you

Thank you . This is good to know. My midwife said it could be something easily preventable. I just don't see how it could have been a genetic abnormality three times in a row. I'm 31.

I am soooo glad it worked out for you. 🥲🧡

@IsabelHerna

I am so sorry for all your losses but please do not give up hope x

Sending you love hugs and strength x

Thank you so much 🧡