Missed miscarriage found at 12 week scan

[mzlk]

Hey,

This is my first time posting
Just wanted to speak to people who have been through the same thing
Found out baby stopped growing at 8 weeks approx

A massive shock as my first pregnancy was a breeze- I naively thought this one would be the same.

Sat outside waiting for my scan thinking I’ll be taking home pictures to show everyone etc

I wanted to wait it out and let it happen naturally but not coping well mentally with that option. Have booked surgery for Friday in case nothing happens by then.

Also would like to know if people started trying again straight away and managed to get pregnant again and have a successful pregnancy?

Any replies would be highly appreciated

Hi - so sorry this has happened.

I had a MMC at 11 weeks, baby stopped growing at 8ish. I let things happen naturally but I'd had brown spotting the week before. The miscarriage happened within a week of finding out but I went back for a scan and there was retained products so I had to have a D&C anyway. I had the scan because I was booked in for the D&C, I'm not sure they'd scan as standard.

I had the same experience at 12 week scan. I opted for D&C as the hospital had already made me go home and come back a week later in case my dates were wrong - such a painful time. It was good decision personally, as my recovery was quick. I hope you will be well looked after and do take care of yourself.

I had my period a month after the D&C and was pregnant that next month, with healthy baby.

Sending lots of love and hope for the future x

Yes this happened to me last March and now 37 weeks pregnant due at the beginning of March. Like you my baby had likely passed a few weeks before, after a week of spotting I woke up and naturally miscarried but lost a lot of blood so had to go to hospital. If it ever happened to me again I'd just have the D&C.

I had two heavy periods then was pregnant again but this was the first month we'd actually 'tried' since. I'd not felt ready before then.

Good luck, it's completely possible to be pregnant again quickly

Thank you for your replies

Tbh I want it over with but I’m such a wimp when it comes to medical procedures! The thought of the cannula being inserted and also being put to sleep terrifies me.
Sitting there without my husband waiting to be taken in also makes me super nervous! I’m a very anxious person as it is in that sense. But paired with the miscarriage, I’m a mess right now. Really worried about the prep for my surgery rather than the acth procedure!

@Hopefulbride18 and @Wendarl really happy that both of you managed to get pregnant soon after.
I’m worried it may take a while. I had been trying for a good few months before I fell pregnant this time.
I’m really eager to be pregnant again but also not ready for the worry that will come with it.

I am so sorry

I found out about my mmc at the scan. It was an awful awful time.

I went for the surgery as my body had already not sorted it out for three weeks and there was a chance the pills would still leave retained product so surgery would be needed. I just wanted it done

The waiting was the worst part. And the irrational last little hope they got it wrong and the second scan would show a heart beat.

However the surgery itself was very calm. I was well looked after. I got emotional and the last thing I remember is the nurse stroking my hair as I went to sleep.

Sending big hugs

Hi. This was me last November. I’m really sorry for your loss. I was totally shocked and devastated to find out baby had stopped growing at 9w6. Were you on your own too? I booked a procedure but was lucky that almost as soon as I knew consciously my body started contractions. They started faintly and irregularly 12 hours after my scan and then I finished miscarrying about 10 hours later - but there was only about half an hour of anything I’d call painful.

I started trying again almost straight away…as soon as they said it was ok. Honestly I was in a bit of a daze for the first few months, and was really focussed on conceiving again. Maybe a bit obsessed?? But I was lucky and got pregnant on my 3rd cycle.

So I’m sat here now feeding my 3 month old, born 12th November, about a week short of a year since my miscarriage.

Give yourself space and time. I needed a week off work to feel strong enough to go back. I try to talk about it a lot to reduce the stigma and I find myself getting upset each time.

Lots of love to you xxx

Wishing you all the best for the surgery, once you have had the op hopefully you can focus on healing emotionally because its a really hard thing to go through.

Thinking of you at this horrible time

@jennytogether so happy to hear that for you! Also so sorry for the loss you suffered

I’m really hoping?? that I have a “manageable” natural miscarriage before my D&C on Friday.

It would be ideal. I don’t want to delay the procedure though, as I’m not coping well mentally. Keep picturing a little baby inside me.

If I do end up going in on Friday I really want them to scan me again first. I don’t know why but I feel as though I need it?

@mzlk I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you.

I’m sure that you can ask again to be scanned. They also let me take a photo of the screen of my baby, which I haven’t yet been able to look at, even now. But it’s comforting knowing it’s there when I’m ready.

My baby is buried in the children’s memorial garden in our local crematorium which also gave me lots of comfort at the time. Our friends also bought us a tree in a forest so soon we’re going to visit there too - this helped me feel that baby wouldn’t be forgotten.

I still wonder about what baby would have been like. Whether they would have been a boy or a girl. I find it possible to think about these things now without it feeling really painful, so it will get better xxxx

I had similar.mmc at 13 weeks. Baby stopped growing at 5 weeks. Also after a while of trying.
I decided to have a d & c as I was worried about retaining.
Thus was August and was pregnant by Christmas. I worried all the way through but dd2 was fine.

Look after yourself. Do what you need to to process it. Like pp I got a scan pic.

Sorry to hear OP! I had a MMC at 12 weeks too (stopped growing at 8 weeks after seeing heartbeat).

The hospital wanted to try medical management and I got given 2 tablets in the space of 24 hours. Nothing happened so I ended up getting a d&c. That meant they could send the tissues to the lab so I could figure out why I’d miscarried (it was my 3rd mc in a row).

It took us maybe 3 months to get pregnant again but unfortunately has another miscarriage. We ended up going through a fertility specialist and I’m now sitting here with my 4 week old on my chest.

Best of luck ❤️

@alittleadvicepls

Sorry to hear OP! I had a MMC at 12 weeks too (stopped growing at 8 weeks after seeing heartbeat).

The hospital wanted to try medical management and I got given 2 tablets in the space of 24 hours. Nothing happened so I ended up getting a d&c. That meant they could send the tissues to the lab so I could figure out why I’d miscarried (it was my 3rd mc in a row).

It took us maybe 3 months to get pregnant again but unfortunately has another miscarriage. We ended up going through a fertility specialist and I’m now sitting here with my 4 week old on my chest.

Best of luck ❤️

Hi @alittleadvicepls

I just saw your post. I've been told today we don't have a heartbeat, after seeing one last week. I should be 8 weeks this weekend. This is my second mc.

I was wondering if you could give more info about the fertility specialist?

Congrats to you on your baby x

@rolypolydoly turns out I was miscarrying because of some genetic issues with the foetuses. The fertility clinic does blood work ups on both partners, scans you to see if it’s a problem with your uterus and does sperm analysis on partner.

It was a combination of things for us and we had to start taking loads of different vitamins (basically all the vitamins from ‘it starts with the egg’ book). Also lifestyle changes- gym and diet change. We had to stop trying for a few months for our bodies to produce better quality eggs and sperm. Once I got a BFP I was started on blood thinners and progesterone injections 😊

I'm so sorry. Mine was a second pregnancy too.
Started spotting at 11 weeks and the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. Had a D&C. This was in the October. I fell pregnant the following January and had my son in October. Healthy baby, no issues at all, had an eight week scan just to see everything was ok.
It's very sad and I feel for you. Good luck.

Thank you so much @alittleadvicepls that's really helpful x

I went for my pre opp today and was told I may be able to ask for a scan tomorrow before surgery.
I hope that is the case.

Thank you all for sharing your experiences. It makes me feel better knowing it is still possible to have a healthy pregnancy after this.

Extremely scared for whenever I do fall pregnant again but hoping for a good outcome!

I had a mmc diagnosed at 12 weeks, baby had stopped growing at approx 8 weeks. I had a ERPC as I wasn't in the head space to wait it out naturally and the idea of inducing the miscarriage with tablets scared me as I had a 4 year old at the time.

I didn't have a period for 5 months afterwards but I got pregnant that first cycle and had a healthy baby.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, giving you a hand hold