The World Post-Miscarriage

[WingingIt101]

Hi

I had a miscarriage recently at 10w (baby measured 7w).
Started bleeding 30th nov. Elected for surgical management which took til the 4th dec to be done.

Told to do pregnancy test three weeks later. That would have been Christmas Day so I thought I would do it a different day and did it on 20th. Negative result.

I also often feel my ovulation happening - I get the little pop sensation. I’m almost certain I felt this on 18th dec - this is also why I did my preg test on 20th as I felt like if I had ovulated then my body must have caught up. Expected AF by now but nothing. It’s stressing me out so much. They didn’t tell me at hospital how long I could be waiting, only to have one period at least before trying again. I’m desperate to start TTC again so this feels like torture.

Def not pregnant again already - we haven’t dtd since due to being sad and then figuring we were close to af anyway.

I feel all over the place.

Hi @WingingIt101 sorry for your loss, I have had 5 pregnancies now and this is my 5th loss, im in that awful waiting period of MMC when you know its gone but you dont bleed....i have had surgical managed twice as well as two "natural" ones, bleeding every time took about 10 days to resolve and my periods came back after about 38 days, so it's very common to not have your next period on time, also be aware it can really mess up your cycle for a while, mine were irregular for about 2-3 months after each loss. On a slightly positive note if you feel mentally and physically able the 3 months after a loss you are super fertile so something to be aware of. I hope you are doing ok, I know exactly how hard and lonely it is, take care x

@spierse thank you. Thank you so much for replying and sharing your experience. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to experience recurrent mc- you are so strong.

Thankfully my period started between my op and this one - I’m now about 6-7 days into this cycle so will be starting with ovulation testing tomorrow to track that. I do want to try again and so does DH.

Our communal cremation is Wednesday. I feel very overwhelmed and sad at the moment when I’ve been doing really well lately.

I still feel like I want to shout at the top of my voice that I had a mc. Just so people know my baby existed

I hope so much that you get your successful healthy pregnancy and you hold your baby in your arms soon xx

@WingingIt101 oh I know that feeling, we have told no one except for one of my sisters, as I couldnt deal with everyones opinions and "advice" as to what they felt I may have done wrong this time (people can be super insensitive). But with no one knowing it is so hard as you are right you just want acknowledgement that this baby mattered. I don't know that I am strong I think that after this much disappointment and heartache you just get a bit numb to it all. It will never leave you but its important I feel because this was a life, a part of you and your husband and of course the loss of that is always devastating. Go easy on yourself, allow yourself to feel whatever you need to, there is no right or wrong in this situation. Just know that sadly you are not alone in this and so many of are with you on this journey, hopefully we will get our rainbows 🌈❤