Anyone else had a late miscarriage?

[AdrianeMole]

Lost our baby so sadly at the 16 weeks scan just under a month ago.
Thought I was feeling better but got post mortem results today to say my baby was genetically normal.
Just feel so devastated that I caused this.

Didn’t want to read and run. I’ve never experienced this but it sounds awful. I hope you’ve got people around you who can support you? I understand that you want to find a reason but I’m not sure it’s helpful to blame yourself. You didn’t cause this to happen. I’m really sorry you’re going through this

Thank you so much @Alovelycupoftea88
My partner is amazing support.

I like to think my baby was just too wonderful for this world and his/her spirit was needed elsewhere. I bet yours was just too wonderful too.

Go through the motions of blaming yourself for a little while if it helps. All feelings are valid. But then try to be kind to yourself as you would be to a friend going through the same thing.

Sorry for your loss x

Thank you @Bloomers58 and so so sorry for your loss too
Its so mad I would not in a million years blame anyone else for their loss, but me I seem to be doing so.
I did love my baby so much xx

@AdrianeMole oh no please don't blame yourself. We can only test against the current scientific knowledge, I'm convinced there is a lot we do not know about miscarriage that will be obvious to future generations.

I'm also 100% sure your darling little baby knew that you loved them. Devastating as it is, your loss means your baby will never have known anything other than your warmth, comfort and love.

Sending you lots of hugs.

Thank you @Hoping4second it means a lot. So Sorry for your loss too
I agree there is a lot of research happening right now that I saw on the Tommy's website that I hope brings answers x

We lost our little girl at 19 weeks in October. I'm surprised you've got the post mortem results so quickly, we're still waiting for ours but they said it could be up to 12 weeks

Dear @sayanythingelse I am so so sorry that you are going through this too.
I used health insurance for the surgery and then was sent an invoice for the testing which I paid straightaway so I think that's why it was fast. But I am upset that the doctor didn't order testing on the placenta or for infections like BV. I thought that was something they would do. Maybe they will do that for you. I wonder if I will make a complaint about mine.

Hey, we lost our little girl at 21 weeks. Devastating. You did not cause this - I understand why you feel that way as so many thoughts and feelings swirl around your head when this happens.

@heywhatswrongwitu so sorry for your loss.
Hope you are OK?