MMC. How long did it take you to pass baby naturally after diagnosis?

[Bloomers58]

He everyone. Sorry, this is my second post in 24 hours. I'm on my own and my EPU haven't diagnosed MC yes so aren't supporting me. I found out HB stopped between 2 private scans. NHS won't accept private scan results and so want to do a second scan next week to confirm no growth but I know the baby has gone.

I'd really like to pass this baby naturally. Since finding out the heart has stopped and it didn't grow between 2 private scans, my symptoms have really ramped up. It feels very cruel. I don't feel like my body has caught up at all.

Would those of you who have had a MMC and chose to wait it out please share with me how long it took for your body to release the pregnancy and for your symptoms to subside?

Really hoping it will be over by Christmas. Thank you in advance. x

I'm sorry I don't know, but I couldn't pass by without sending many virtual hugs and to you sister woman 💐

@TheWatersofMarch thank you so much x

So sorry to hear this, esp at this time of year.
I was told my baby had stopped growing on the Friday and it came away on Tuesday (4 years ago now).
I was told once you've been told your body goes into a bit if shock and releases it.
I Hood this helps and you can try and enjoy your Christmas.

So sorry to hear this. I had two very different experiences with my MMC's. First one wasn't picked up until 12 week scan. I opted for ERPC as it looked like baby had died 3 weeks previously and they said it was likely to be a while before anything happened naturally.
Second time I had bleeding around 8 weeks, a scan confirmed my suspicions. I passed everything naturally a couple of days later.
Thinking of you OP

I’m so sorry for your loss. The first one took 8 weeks and was a bit of a shock when it finally did happen. I had 2 further miscarriages and opted for medical management for both of these (I waiting for 2 weeks with the second miscarriage then asked for medical management, and the third miscarriage I was able to have medical management immediately after the scan as a heartbeat had been seen in the EPU previously. Like you I found out about each miscarriage at private scans and had to have it confirmed ‘officially’, the wait was tough and I’m sorry you are having to wait. Huge hugs for you xx

So sorry for your loss. I am currently in the same situation as you. I had a MMC at 9.5/10 weeks and found out Monday just gone when I was 12 weeks at the EPU. I had gone in as I was bleeding on and off over the weekend.

I decided to wait and pass it naturally however I have the surgical procedure booked in now for tomorrow.

I have had cramps and a bit of bleeding on and off but nothing major so far, and because of the late nature they suggested having the operation. It's technically been almost 3.5 weeks and hasn't passed properly yet, so I've resigned myself to the surgery.

My huge sympathies to you, I have had an awful week and had to do a lot of soul searching in regards to what treatment to do. I can't offer much, as this is all new to me as my first pregnancy, but if you would like to talk i'd happily listen.

@MO22 thank you. Its my first pregnancy too and doesn't it suck. I found out the HB had stopped last week after seeing it the week before. I just got this awful feeling that it was gone, I was due to tell my mum the next day and i wanted to check on that feeling before I did and sure enough, I was right. I really feel like I want to see it through to the end naturally but it's early days and I know that could change. I respect you for making the difficult decision to have surgery. Wishing you a quick and easy physical recovery and hope you can find space for rest and self care afterwards x

@Bloomers58 I too heard the HB only to be told it had stopped growing most likely a few days after that private scan... Feels especially cruel when I was feeling more confident about miscarriage rate dropping once you've heard a HB.

I completely agree with your feelings of seeing it through naturally, I think all you can do is make the decisions based on how you feel at each juncture.

I hope you have support from family and friends, and there is also Tommy's out there. I am thinking about calling one of their midwives soon, just to answer a few questions, as my actual midwife has ghosted me!

Also my advice with EPU is don't give up! Covid etc has made my experience of all of this absolutely awful, and I had to really badger the EPU to get to decisions and answers. Keep reaching out to them as you go through the process for support. Thinking of you x

@MO22 I didn't realise you can call Tommy's. Thank you. Sorry to hear your midwife had ghosted you. Do feel free to update/keep in touch as we go through this together. Sending my best xx

I have this question too, how long can natural MC take? How many weeks have you waited? Lots of support you xo

I had scan at 8 weeks, our baby was lost at 6weeks, 5 days. I had no miscarriage symptoms at all. CRUEL! It was via IVF, adding to the heartache. I stopped my medication after scan and bled heavily a few days after scan, i then attended hospital early pregnancy unit, they done a scan and advised to wait a week if I miscarry naturally. A week later, another scan and no progress with very little bleeding, they described it as incomplete.I then opted for medical management, they gave me 3 doses over 3 weeks and no luck, still incomplete. I understand D&C is a safe and uneventful procedure but I’ve decided it’s not for me, Dr said it’s my choice and I will miscarry naturally. It is almost 6 weeks, anyone any experience of waiting naturally for weeks? My Dr warned me to look out for signs of infection but starting to worry as it’s taking a long time.

I had a scan at 8 weeks. No hb. S no growth since 5.5. Scan on a Tues morning.. Passed an intact foetus in the sac on the Thursday lunchtime..

@HomeHope how awful for you that it is dragging out. My dates were the same as yours in terms of finding out so it's been 3 weeks so far since the baby died I think. I have had not a spot of blood yet. Another scan Thursday. I plan to leave it another week then ramp up the raspberry leaf tea, cinnamon, high dose Vit C etc. These things are supposed to help. But for me, in all honesty I think the thing that still needs to happen is letting go of being pregnant. I am still not ready for those lines to disappear and I feel like when I truly, truly let go, it will happen.

@Santahatesbraisedcabbage . So sad. I am wondering if I'll see the sac. Did you find it any comfort to find it? X

A lot tbh. I was at a friend's house (working) and she wasn't in. She came home just after. She lit the open fire and I wrapped it up and had a little send off sat on my own. Then friend made me a cuppa.
I had rang dh but he was miles away. Didn't want him driving in a hurry either.... I didn't ttc again. I was 4 days off 45...

@Bloomers58 thanks for message, it’s a very cruel wait…I’ve been thinking my body is slow and useless! I never really thought of my loss the way you described yours…i don’t think I’ve let go either!

@HomeHope I'm taking comfort in the fact my body won't let go too. It's working hard, doing its job, holding onto a baby, which is exactly what it should be doing but unfortunately this baby isn't viable. I am taking comfort in that because I now know my body can do its job and hold onto a pregnancy, so when I get a baby that is viable in there, there's a good chance my body will hold it In and it'll be ok. The baby just wasn't viable, my body is working fine. Hope you can also spin your thinking like this. "Thanks body for doing your job so well, but this baby isn't one to hold on to" X