Hello,
This is quite long, sorry for that and thanks if you do read. I just need to vent / ask advice to someone who’s not in my family or friend circle.
Warning please don’t read if you’re currently going though and or are worried about having a miscarriage - Potentially triggering miscarriage story ahead.
I’m currently 6 weeks and 1 day pregnant.
I’ve had 2 other pregnancies and I lost both of them. Both were very different. The first was a mmc at 12.5 weeks (foetus measured only about 6 weeks) I had already started bleeding and was given no options just sent home and it was the most traumatic thing that’s ever happened to me.
I was told by the very unhelpful midwife aw sorry you can try again in a couple of months, it’ll only be like a bad period.
I was possibly a bit naive to believe her but it wasn’t like a heavy period and I suffer from abnormally heavy clotty periods. I bled so badly that I couldn’t stand up without covering myself and the bathroom in blood within seconds. I went to a&e. Packed my underwear full of pads, it’s a 10 min drive and I had soaked through to the car seat. They told me come back if I faint. By the time I got home I passed what felt like an orange (probably wasn’t this big in reality it just felt that way coming out) I later found out from
another midwife that I was likely close to heamoraging because the sac had become stuck on its way out causing the extreme flooding I had and to not allow a&e staff to dismiss me if this were ever to happen again. As soon as the sac passed the bleeding settled and did get mildly heavy again passing subsequent smaller clots.
2nd miscarriage I wasn’t trying to get pregnant I was on the pill. I have no idea how far along I was but i was early. I was scanned early due to having one sided abdominal pain and was confirmed to have another mmc. This time I hadn’t bled yet so I had options. I went for the MVA procedure (like a d&c but it’s less damaging and you’re awake). It was a pain I’ll never forget, genuinely horrific but it was over in 10 minutes with minimal bleeding and I bypassed the trauma and worry of another scary at home miscarriage.
I swore I would never try again, its not for me - I’m not strong enough to go through this again despite my husband and I being desperate for kids.
I’m 32 now, it’s been a few years since the last miscarriage and I thought ok one more try, if anything after the 3rd they can send it away for genetic testing and I might have an answer.
Flash forward to today, I’m bleeding and while it’s so far light pink I do have a fair bit of cramping.
I’m going to call EPU first thing but does anyone know if you can have an MVA if you’re already bleeding? I was under the impression from my first that once you started bleeding that’s it no intervention. I don’t want to go through this at home again, I’m worried I’ll haemorrhage and I also want to be able to have the sac sent for testing which I can’t do if this happens at home.
Thanks if you made it this far!