Miscarriage 9 weeks but baby died at 6 weeks- what to expect

[Stargazer89]

Hi everyone, today i had the sad news that we lost our baby. I started bleeding so had a scan at EPU which confirmed that baby stopped growing at 6 weeks (we should have been over 9 weeks) i am just terrified of what’s going to happen.
Does anyone know if i will miscarry as 9 weeks or will it (hopeful) be less painful because baby stopped at 6 weeks? I am scared to go to bed tonight and have heard many have contractions and pass huge clots and need to go to hospital. I want it to happen sooner rather than later but terrified at the same time.

I’m so sorry for your loss. My dates were similar but I had to take medication to induce the contractions as my body wasn’t initiating anything or bleeding. They were painful but not unbearable. If you’re already bleeding hopefully there won’t be pain. What I passed wasn’t huge in size and I never needed to go to hospital other than initially for the drugs. Look after yourself

Sorry for your loss. My personal experience was that loss at 6 weeks was not too painful. I did get good pain killers from EPU.

Thank you both. Do you think because the baby died at 6 weeks it will be classed as a 6 week miscarriage? i am in bed now but just so scared to try and sleep. Also did you both have time off work?

I've taken a sick day but I could also work from home so it's made easier to manage. Take a sick day(s) if you need it!

I bled a huge amount but had no pain at all.
Mine died at 9 weeks, and I miscarried at 12.

I was told, after a tiny bleed, that often once you are told, your body lets go.. And that is what happened, baby measured 9 weeks, I was 11 when I found out. I wasn't fearful but was told just to keep in touch with hosp in case of infection. Fresh blood, soaking the pad at first, then some clots and a definite larger piece of tissue .. I'm so sorry. I felt it but not painful. The cramping was and I sat on the couch while Will and Kate got married with a hot water bottle, pizza and plenty of codeine. Infection us a worry if it seems to finish and then starts again days later. Try to sleep.

So sorry for your loss, my miscarriage didn't come away by itself, but I had to go into hospital for a tablet and a day in a private room, within a few hours a larger clot came away.

Good luck xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. Until I had a missed miscarriage I didn't know they existed. I went to my 12 week scan and was told baby had died and was measuring 8 weeks. I was told to come back in 10 days. After 5 days I began to bleed very heavily and collapsed with blood loss - ambulance and 5 days in hospital. No pain.. I didn't know what to expect re blood loss abs no one told me. So when started bleeding heavily I thought it was normal and that many women have miscarriages so get on with it.

Take it easy and take time off. Plus my hormones were haywire for a while afterwards which I didn't expect x

Oh, I'm so sorry. You will almost certainly not pass anything recognisable at the stage you were, and it should be painless or no worse than a nasty period. If you're in pain or at all worried, see if they'll admit you. They sometimes decide to do a D&C to be sure everything's passed.
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Sorry for your loss. Gosh it's so hard to take in.

My experience- found out at 12 weeks that baby died at 7-8 weeks. I was actually quite worried because I wasn't sure what constituted 'passing large blot clots' as the membrane of the placenta for me was quite a lot to come out and I was scared to go to bed at night worrying I might pass out in my sleep! I worried because I was told to call 999 if large amounts of blood came out! For me it was more than just a "more than heavy period". But all was ok. Not too painful.. i guess quite intense period pains in waves that come and go. Contraction followed by whoosh of blood for me. So don't jump to conclusions if you get large amounts of blood but keep in touch with the hospital if you're concerned. Also there are some hotlines I think out there that could help reassure you?

I was also told by a nutritionist friend to keep up iron intake... beetroot is good. Spinach, red meat if you eat it...

OP

Thank you so much for all of your replies, it certainly does help with not feeling so alone. A couple of hours ago i was getting a pressure pain feeling down below that came in waves and i passed a couple of small clots! the pain has stopped now but just sat on the toilet (sorry tmi) bleeding but not huge amounts just like a heavy period. I am just waiting for it to pick up again though.
Gosh it’s awful but I am grateful that it’s happened early on and take some comfort in the fact that I was told it was most likely down to a chromosome problem so it just wasn’t meant to be this time.
I am so sorry that you have all had to go through this.

Hi lovely I am so so sorry for your loss, sending you so much love and strength right now. I had a missed miscarriage recently myself - I was supposed to be 11 weeks but found out last Sunday during an early private scan that baby stopped developing at 7 weeks and baby had stayed inside of me for the past 4 weeks. I've had spotting but no heavy bleeding, so I chose to go with an MVA surgery as my body showed no proper signs of letting baby go, and I had the MVA surgery the Monday that had just gone. I was told I could wait to naturally pass but the anxiety of not knowing when that could happen was too much, so I opted for the MVA surgery to fasten the process which I personally found very painful and unpleasant, however it was all over in about 15-20 minutes, they made me take medication before the surgery which gave me the most painful cramps, which was supposed to happen as it was meant to loosen my cervix to make surgery easier. Whilst having the surgery I wished I had taken the option to be asleep during surgery because the pain was a lot to me, but maybe I just have a low pain threshold! Work was very understanding and I've taken this whole week off to rest and recover. I am so so sorry for your loss, it is such a painful experience mentally, emotionally and physically, wishing you the smoothest recovery and all the best x

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I was in the same position as you in May, my baby had died at six weeks and I found out a day before nine weeks. I had a bit of spotting, which was why I’d gone for an early scan.

I started bleeding naturally and it was on/off like midway through a period for an afternoon, then that evening I stood up to go to bed and felt a larger clot pass which let me know things were starting. I ended up passing clots (large enough for me to feel them coming out, and having the weird sensation of ‘pushing’ them out) for a couple of hours and then it calmed down, and I slept with a hot water bottle and some painkillers. It wasn’t especially painful, but very sad. I also don’t get heavy or painful periods, so don’t know if that’s related?

Although it was emotional, I feel like I can look back and be proud of myself for getting through it, if that doesn’t sound too weird. I did have some retained tissue and ended up with an infection, but that wasn’t as awful as I’d expected and everyone who dealt with me from the sonographer to GP prescribing antibiotics was just so kind. I can’t help posting on any miscarriage thread I see on here because people were so helpful to me!

I hope the next few hours/days aren’t too awful for you. There’s so much support online if you need it, I read so many of the miscarriage associations first-hand stories and found that weirdly helpful. Sending lots of love x

Oh, and to add (since you asked) it was classed as a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I miscarried on the Monday evening and took the rest of the week off. I needed it emotionally, as well as physically. I just wanted to hide in bed and recover.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just remember you are never alone and will get through this no matter how heartbroken you feel just now.

I had a missed miscarriage in August. Babies heartbeat stopped at 7 weeks and I found out when I was 9 weeks.

Did the EPU chat to you about different options to manage your miscarriage? Please just give them a call if u have any worries or anxieties. They are there to help and will talk you through pain relief and any bleeding etc.

I opted for surgical management. Not sure if that is something that will or can be offered to you but I took 4 weeks off work (2 for recovery from surgery , 2 to get myself together as I was in bits ) . If I'm being honest I think I should have been off longer . But I was glad to get a bit of normality again.

Take care of yourself OP x

@Poppy101010 so sorry you have been through the same. Have you started to try again?
The nurse didn’t really go through options but she just said I need to go back for a scan in 10 days to confirm (even though we know the baby has died, it’s their policy) If i had the choice I would have opted for surgical management, i assume if not all has passed when they scan me next they may give me the option.
I just don’t know what to expect, I have a toddler to look after and my partner can’t take the whole 10 days off waiting for it to happen.
pain relief wasn’t mentioned either but I have been taken paracetamol so far. x

We started trying as soon as we could and I'm now 5 weeks pregnant . Still early days so I'm very anxious , but keeping my fingers crossed.

I'm thinking because you are already bleeding, they think you might pass naturally. If you don't feel comfortable waiting 10 days I'd just phone EPU and explain how your feeling etc.

I also got a sick note from the doctor for the time I had off . X

@Poppy101010 ah congratulations that’s lovely news. I was just bleeding quite heavy and then just passed a huge clot about the size of my hand and I am really hoping that’s the main bit over with but who knows! x

That's the main bit I'd say.. It is hard going.. We were told to hang on 3m for the best chance so we did and my ds was born a year to the day of my mmc.. Wishing you better days ahead.

Further to my post previously, I just wanted to say, in case you wanted to try again, that since the miscarriage I am now mother to a healthy 3month old daughter. It can all turn around so have hope.

How are you doing OP?

I'm also keen to know how your getting on ?

Hi everyone, I am slowly recovering. It was pretty traumatic and i ended up in hospital due to blood loss and the amount of huge clots I lost. Hopefully over the worst now and just resting up.
@SylvesterTheCat and @HeyGirlHeyBoy that’s lovely news that you have both gone on to have healthy babies. We were keen to try again but after how horrible the miscarriage was i think we are a bit scared about it happening again but I am sure time will heal x

How awful !! But glad your over the worst of it all. I felt the exact same as you when I had my MMC. I couldn't even think about trying. But give it time and you may feel differently. The nurse I spoke to said 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Hopefully this is just your 1 in 4 xx