Will it get easier?

[Everhopeful41]

I had a miscarriage at 5-6 weeks on Weds. I feel numb and like a failure. I’m 42 and feel that might have been my last chance. We’ve been doing IVF but this was a natural pregnancy. My supervisor at work knew about the pregnancy and is being very supportive but I just feel like I can’t face seeing her or going back to work. I’m taking next week off. I just feel so sad and down. My partner has said and done some really insensitive things. I feel like just giving up with everything 😓

What has your partner done or said? I don't want to excuse their behavior but mine said such an oblivious comment after mine ("I guess your body just doesn't want to hang on to these babies") but he didn't mean it badly and was heartbroken when I was hurt. I think he was just trying to reason it out for himself and did so very poorly.

I'm on my third miscarriage in 11 months, all unexplained. I'd say the pain does get better with time but for me the numbness doesn't. I also have found it hard to connect with and hope for each subsequent pregnancy which sucks. It's different for everyone.

Sorry you're in this shitty boat with us. Sending hugs.

Thanks. He said I was being miserable today. It only happened on Weds and some other things that I don’t want to say. He’s apologised but I really felt like I was being kicked when I was down. I feel like I want the world to just swallow me up. Sorry to hear about your miscarriages. 3 must be so hard, I can’t imagine.

Hi lovely I am incredibly sorry for your loss and I am so sorry your partner has been saying insensitive things to you during this time, that is the last thing you need right now. Sending so so much love to you I've recently had a missed miscarriage this week - I was supposed to be 11 weeks but baby stopped developing at 7 weeks and I had MVA surgery the Monday that had just gone and have taken this week off work to rest and recover. Emotionally I am at the lowest of low and I already know and feel I will not be out of this low rut for a very long time, both me and my hubby wanted this baby so much, but sadly it just wasn't our time. Your supervisor sounds super amazing and so happy to know she is supportive of you! You need as much support as possible right now from those closest to you. Completely understand how you feel about seeing her at work, I'm dreading going back into work next week and seeing my small team of 7, I already know I'm going to ball my eyes out if any of them bring it up.

Please take next week off to have time for yourself to heal physically and emotionally, although emotionally you will need as much time as you need. In terms of your partner I think it would be good to talk things out with them and tell them how you've been feeling about the way they have been acting, considering how recent this mc just happened for both of you they need to be more understanding that of course you are going to be "miserable" and hurt for a while, you are in the middle of a healing process for such a tragic loss, and this experience is so painful. I'm hoping your partner comes to terms with this and is more easier on you. Sending you so much love and light right now xx

I had miscarriage on Tuesday at 10 weeks I can't get the images out my head the pain and hurt is unbelievable I've been off work but don't think I could go back next week either I'm so emotional