My son was stillborn last week- how do i cope?

[emma1103]

My son was stillborn a week ago,at 31 weeks, and i feel so numb. I dont know how you even begin to learn to cope.

I feel so empty.

That's very understandable. Sometimes when something unimaginably traumatic happens, to survive we need to focus on something in the future. When that date or event occurs, it can come as a painful shock that we do not feel a hoped-for feeling and instead may continue to feel numb or empty, or angry or sad. I just say this to you because however you feel, at any point, is entirely normal in this awful situation.

Taking it day by day, hour by hour in the darkest times is all you can do.

I hope you have some great real life support but do post your stream of consciousness here if it helps too.

Get all the help you can from the hospital and counselling ongoing, it'll be something you live with for many years, stay in therapy if it helps for as long as you can.

Ask friends and family for help when you need it. Don't be afraid to communicate clearly with how they can best support you.

I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. It’s awful and I have no words adequate for such a terrible experience but I wanted to give my condolences.

I’m so sorry for your loss 💙

Beautiful name for a beautiful boy. I’m so sorry again for your loss 💙

I know some people get some measure of comfort from charity and raising money in the name of a loved one. Not for everyone I know, don’t take this as prescriptive either, but if there is a charity/ service/ cause that’s close to your heart people could donate in your son’s memory. It’s something that brought a small amount of joy when dealing with my own bereavements Xx

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. I hope you don't mind me asking about the problems at the 12 week scan?
The reason I ask is that we lost our little girl at 19 weeks. We had a raised nuchal translucency but a clear CVS. We found out she had no heartbeat at the fetal echo. Every post I've come across about late loss seems to be tied to something such as incompetent cervix or premature labour. I haven't found anyone who has been down the whole CVS/fetal echo route too.

I hope things are getting better for you day by day. It's been a month since our loss and time has been a great healer.