Waiting to miscarry...feeling lost and confused.

[Want2bMumof3]

I had an early scan due to some cramping and light bleeding 21/10.
I was reassured as we picked up a heart beat and they offered a scan two weeks later for peace of mind as they could see a pocket of blood. They didn't seem concerned and said it was common and would likely be reabsorbed into my body.

Fast forward to 05/11. We went for a scan and booking bloods.
Unfortunately they advised there was no heartbeat.

I have chosen to try and pass naturally. Although I'm scared.
But I still haven't had any pain or bleeding as of yet. And I just did another pregnancy test which was a strong positive.

Why hasn't my body realised that my baby is dead??

So sorry for your loss, it is really tough.

I guess our bodies just really wanted to keep those little babies :(

I hope everything passes okay for you x

Take care!

I just feel so in limbo.
Part of me wants it to hurry up and happen...even though I'm honestly terrified.
But part of me is hanging onto the tiniest little hope that the longer I go with nothing happening that maybe, somehow there was a mistake on the second scan...maybe they missed the heartbeat somehow???

So sorry for your loss @Want2bMumof3.

I had a missed miscarriage in April. I decided to go through the medically managed route.

It's devastating. Miscarriage can be so different for each woman but in my experience the actual miscarriage wasn't as bad as I'd made it in my head. Periods of intense pain, of course, but I made sure that I was medicated and took it really easy.

Look after yourself and I hope you've got support through this difficult time.

I am so sorry to hear this. Like you I am currently hoping they got it wrong. I have miscarried, I find my self thinking maybe I am still pregnant.

It is heartbreaking

Really sorry you're going through this. I was told on Monday I'd had a mmc and I went for medical management. I had the tablets that night. I also had to go back and forth for scans. One scan there was no baby, the scan 4 days later showed a 'possible fetal pole' I then had to wait another week for another scan. I actually had hope because there has been some growth and I kept telling myself this fetal pole wasn't there on the last scan and the baby was just hiding, when I went back Monday there my baby was but with no heartbeat. Although I had prepared for the worst hearing it out loud was just horrendous.
It's so hard and just bloody cruel. I hope you're okay, as you can be. I opted for the tablets because I just couldn't face even more waiting.

I'm so so sorry for your loss.
After my first MMC i went for medical management just to take control of it as I had already carried for 3 weeks according to my scan and there was no signs of a natural MC happening, the second time I Had MMC it started by three weeks. So it can take a while, maybe look at medical management if you'd like to be in more 'control of it'
I have to say out of the two ... sounds awful to say which I 'preferred' but the medical was probably better for me physically and mentally x
So sorry again

@doodledeedum

I'm so so sorry for your loss. After my first MMC i went for medical management just to take control of it as I had already carried for 3 weeks according to my scan and there was no signs of a natural MC happening, the second time I Had MMC it started by three weeks. So it can take a while, maybe look at medical management if you'd like to be in more 'control of it' I have to say out of the two ... sounds awful to say which I 'preferred' but the medical was probably better for me physically and mentally x So sorry again

I'm so sorry if this is a dumb question, but how do you know how long you carried? We found out there was no heartbeat on Friday so potentially I have carried since Friday...but also there is a possibility I have carried since 21st October or anywhere in between. I didn't know whether to just wait til 24th Nov as that would have been the dating scan so normally we would be oblivious up until that date anyway...

I'm at such a loss. But I think part of me is hanging on and the longer I go the more I think is there anyway there was a mistake?
But I know I'm being ridiculous really.

I'm just finding it so hard to let go knowing that this was our last chance.

I'm so sorry that you (and all the other ladies here) have suffered losses.

@Want2bMumof3 hey...
i knew because at my first scan with #1 I went at what was 6 weeks and showed as 5 ... so was advised to go back two weeks later to see if it was my dates were wrong or it had indeed stopped at five.,., meaning it was three weeks with nothing happening naturally
#2 I had an 8 week private scan and had a heartbreak, at 12+1 I began bleeding - went EPU- was told a MC was starting - sent home with no scan as they couldn't scan till the next day- so I booked my own private scan as I wanted to know a number of things - when had it stopped or if it had it stopped and what to expect to see .... really awful.
We managed to get a private and the sonographer told me it stopped at 9 weeks according to measurements.... so again I knew it had been three weeks.... but this time had started naturally

I COMPLETELY get holding on to the hope it may be wrong.,, and who knows honestly?
I also had the NHS scanning me and being told private scans can sometimes be wrong ( but I'm glad I did private ones or I'd have no evidence of the size of baby number two and when it had stopped!)

Hold on tight and I really hope all is actually ok for you ( could u get another scan man the and just day you want to be 100%...I know if you were to chose medicated route they have to scan and check that everything has stopped and be 100% certain anyway) but I know it's absolutely gut wrenching to wait and hope x

How are you doing @Want2bMumof3 ? X

@doodledeedum

How are you doing *@Want2bMumof3* ? X

Struggling. Thank you for asking though. At the toilet today when I wiped I had quite a lot of discharge and it was really thick (even thicker than the egg white mucus) but tinged with blood so I'm guessing it's going to happen soon and then I will finally have to accept it.

I have tried so hard to pretend nothing is wrong, telling myself it must be a mistake etc.

Now I'm just scared.
I'm scared of what is to come, scared about whether I'll cope with the pain, scared I'll rupture of haemorrhage.

I'm so mixed up.

@Want2bMumof3 I'm
Going to DM u

So sorry op. I had a mmc last year but went straight in for surgical management the day after. For me it was the quickest way out. In hospital for 1pm, home by 6pm. Such a personal choice though. I'm now 24 weeks pregnant. Hang in there

@toadstool32

So sorry op. I had a mmc last year but went straight in for surgical management the day after. For me it was the quickest way out. In hospital for 1pm, home by 6pm. Such a personal choice though. I'm now 24 weeks pregnant. Hang in there

Sorry for your loss also. I think in all honesty I've held on to try and give myself hope. The longer I go the more I think maybe it was a mistake?

I'm so happy that you managed to fall pregnant again though and I hope all is well.