Due Date

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Today should have been the due date of our baby. This whole month has been incredibly hard, and this weekend extremely. I am still suffering from physical side effects of the miscarriage.

We've found ourselves isolating from people who have young kids. I find it so difficult to be around babies. Is this still normal?

I'm so sorry to hear this. I think it is absolutely normal to not want to be around babies. You must take as much time as you need. Isolating from them is a good idea.

Have you thought of writing a little memory book with dates, names / name ideas, your feelings...? Lighting a candle each evening is a nice thing to do, to show you are thinking of them. Planting a tree...

I find this article interesting. To you.

lauragraceweldon.com/2012/06/12/mother-child-are-linked-at-the-cellular-level/

Yes, totally normal. I found my expected due date absolutely brutal and cried a ton. There is no timescale for this. You're grieving and it will take as long as it takes.

Even years in the future your due date will give you a twinge, just like the birthday of a parent who has died. And that's ok.

This is harder in some ways, because it's such a shock, and you don't have the happy memories to celebrate that you can turn to when other family members pass.

Miscarriages are AWFUL. We don't talk about them enough, and they're brushed under the carpet, and somehow there's this awful expectation that we're just supposed to crack on and get over it. That's bullshit (excuse language). It's awful and brutal and horrible and hard. And you feel so let down by your own body, and there is no magic pill to fix that.

It's totally normal and you are not at all alone.