Missed miscarriage

[Meg0416]

I went for my 12 week scan yesterday to find no heartbeat, baby is sizing up as a lot smaller than 12 week so we’re assuming it passed a while ago but just doesn’t want to leave yet.
I have to wait a week for another scan to see if it has grown. Has anyone else experienced this? Surely if there’s no heartbeat it wouldn’t grow?
I don’t want to sound insensitive so sorry if I do- just a bit shaken up.
Thanks for your time

I'm so sorry

I had a missed miscarriage last year. Went for a scan and was measuring behind where I should have been with no heartbeat. Had to go back for another scan 10 days later to confirm. The waiting between scans was incredibly difficult so I really feel for you.

Thank you for your kind message- so sorry you had to go through this too. Would you mind telling me what to expect for my next scan? My midwife was very vague and at the time I wasn’t in any place to ask questions but now I have tonnes. Completely understand if it’s too raw for you though.

Of course.

I went for my next scan and the midwife confirmed there had been no growth since the last scan, then a second midwife came in and confirmed it. I think they have to leave enough time between scans to be be sure.

They then went through my options with me and told me I had a few choices. I could either wait and see if my body would move things along I guess, or have either a medical or surgical management. I opted for the medical management.

It might be an idea to ring them back with any questions you have? It's completely understandable for you not to know what you want to ask at the time, and then have more questions later. Or you can look up The Miscarriage Asscociation, I found them a great help xx

Hi Meg, so sorry your going through this!
I also experienced this a few weeks ago, I’m 10 days post surgical management.
I went in at 10 weeks and 4 days as id had some random bleeding but not much to the early pregnancy unit. So all my care went through there and could be slightly different to what you can expect. Not too sure where your going for your care at the min!
My little ones heart had stopped and growth had stopped at 10 weeks bang on. They opted to manage myself surgically due to myself living around 45 mins from a hospital and didn’t want to medically manage me as I was apparently high risk for heavy bleeding during it. They only offered me surgical management as well with the fetus being so large and my womb being nearly 11 weeks and at the point of surgery it would nearly be 12.
I went in on the Monday before the surgery for a pre op and covid tests (urine, blood and bp and bmi tests) then in on the Tuesday for the op. I was petrified for the dilation and evac but everything went well. I had heavy bleeding and lost a lot of blood during the op but I was lucky enough to be healing well after and no complications due to it. I got home the same day and felt like I could start putting myself back together a bit. I do believe the surgical management was the best option for me even though it petrified me. Mentally and physically I believe I’ve been able to heal a bit more going surgical even though I was begging them to let me be medically or naturally managed. It wouldn’t have been a great option for me.
I’m now 10 days post and only slightly bleeding now more like the end of a period. I have to do the pregnancy test in a week to check everything’s going good which the thought of is killing me but it’s got to be done 😩
The ladies, surgeon and anaesthetists were all so nice and lovely and really put me at ease and helped me through such an awful day.

If there’s anything else I can help you with or answer anything about my experience I’ll keep an eye on here
Wishing you all the luck Meg xx

Sorry you are going through this 😞

I am one week post miscarriage. At my first scan it was similar to what you experienced and they wanted to wait a week and scan again to check for growth. When I went back the following week unfortunately there actually had been some growth which was really confusing. They had to decide if it was viable and with a lot of in-depth checking they called it finally that it was not viable. The growth had been minimal and not enough for what a viable pregnancy should be.

I sat down with the doctor and was given the three options. I chose medical management. I was able to do this as the fetus was measuring small. They gave me tablets to take at home. When I took them things started happening quickly. They also gave me pain relief. I had cramping for about 5 days. Not all day long but intense for a few hours each day. I am still bleeding and passing small amounts of tissue but it is reducing gradually. I have to go in again next week to check that it has all passed.

It's a gruelling time both physically and mentally. Mind yourself and make sure you have somebody to talk to about it.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you! I found out Thursday at an early scan the baby had no heartbeat. Id been for a scan the previous week and there was a heartbeat but they were concerned should the growth. It had grown since the previous week and looked fine on the screen but something must have happened over the last week. Im still feeling so nauseous so the whole situation really sucks.

I'm planning to go for d&c, however was told the NHS aren't offering it under general anesthetic right now so looking into private options as the thought of going through it awake terrifies me!

Its a roller coaster of emotions right now, I feel so angry ive gone through all this shit over the past 2 months for nothing, but trying not to be bitter about it.

We'll get through it but it really is a horrible situation. Take care!!!

I had a missed miscarriage several years ago. No second scan. Just told no heartbeat and subsequent removal of fetus by suction when I was awake.
The Dr was heartless, spoke about me as though I wasn’t there - just spoke to the nurse. I had to lie to the nurse that someone was going to look after me at home - because she couldn’t believe no one was going to help - and kept asking me.
It was awful.

Subsequently I saw a program about how many of these foetuses do have something significant wrong with them, and that is why they miscarry. I had to believe there was a reason for it happening to get me through, and afterwards I had another son. Wouldn’t have had him if I hadn’t miscarried.

Sorry you’re going through this, it’s rubbish. I sincerely hope things improve. X

So sorry @Meg0416

Same thing happened to me a few years ago. I didn't even know missed miscarriages existed.

I was told to come back in 10 days and everything should pass naturally. That was it.

After 5 days I started bleeding very heavily but as id not had a miscarriage before I didn't know if bleed level was normal so I didn't call anyone and just sat in bath for about 8 hours (kept bleeding though pads and clothes so had to stay in bath(. Anyway I collapsed with blood loss and had to go by ambulance to hospital, had a transfusion and was in a week.

Not trying to scare you - just a saying that if you feel bleeding heavily phone your Gp or hospital. Take it easy

@BellaScot123 I have had two surgical management's for miscarriage this year. I've been on the emergency list for both but it's been an option. Maybe it depends on the trust but double check because it's not an NHS thing.

I had a missed mc in December albeit very early. Went for a scan at 7w heartbeat had stopped at 6w. Scan was with a consultant so I didn't need to wait for a rescan. This was a Thursday evening. I went privately and she did the surgery for me Monday. I went down to theatre at 1 and was home by 6. I then decided to give myself six months to make sure I was double jabbed etc. I'm pregnant again now and have my 20week scan this week. Wishing you all the best.

Nb- I went privately because it was peak covid and near Xmas so I didn't want to be in a busy nhs hospital on a shared ward but the nhs were offering surgical management under GA too.

@toadstool32 do you mind sharing which private hospital you used? I’m going through the same thing and can’t wait for as long as the nhs is saying I will have to

New Victoria hospital in Kingston